Dude’s List: 11 Dumb*ss Reasons Girls Turn Down Guys

Standards. Expectations. Rules. Boundaries. Ideals. We all have a variety of personal principles that we like to use to reject people that show some…interest, in us. There are tons of different excuses we come up with. The question really becomes, which ones are rational and which ones are just batsh*t crazy? Where’s the line between legitimate reasons to tell a guy to go back to the time void and when are we just being ridiculously picky? Coming at this issue from the female side, I present you with 11 of the DUMBEST reasons y’all turn down guys:

Alright, thus concludes my tirade. Anything remind you of an incident in your life? Am I off base? Did I miss any? We all have our petty reasons to reject someone flat off. Doesn’t make it right. Doesn’t mean we’ll change. We could if we really worked hard enough, but Generation-Y kind of got skipped on the whole work ethic thing…a lot of them anyway. Next time on Dude’s List we’ll flip this coin take it from the boys’ side. Get your latex gloves ready…

On the bubble,

The Dude

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  1. Lisa owens says:

    We turn down guys for ones reason. Because we can! (At least some of us)

    1. Hugo says:

      dumbest chick ever ;-)

  2. Molly - UNL says:

    I WANT a guy who watches Star Wars. Someone that doesn't think my R2D2 phone cover is lame.

    1. graywolf323 says:

      this is quite possibly the best reply I have ever read

    2. Mike says:

      Will you marry me?

    3. The Dude says:

      R2D2 phone cover? You are the dream girl of my demographic.

    4. Molly - UNL says:

      Hahah, thanks. I try.

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  4. izz says:

    I admit that I prefer taller guys but I have dated plenty of short men. And with the wolf man thing, I love a guy with some facial hair but when the beard is so out of control, he looks unkempt and like he doesn't take care of himself, it's a turn off.

    1. The Dude says:

      Bravo for giving the shorties a chance! I agree, too much facial hair might be a legit reason to quit, but I'm talking about the all or nothing standards. I can name several I've met who literally, if he has 1 day's shadow on a his face, they would dismiss him.

  5. Jes says:

    As a woman, I agree that the "too nice" comment is ridiculous. My friends joke with me that my type is "the nice guy." So I've come to realize that when girls complain about guys being "too nice" they either mean they find the guy boring, or they feel guilty because the guy is more into them than they are into him.

    1. The Dude says:

      Does "boring" necessarily mean "not nice" though? The two don't have to be mutually exclusive, do they?

    2. Jes says:

      What I mean is, if a girl can find nothing wrong with a guy but doesn't like him, we kind of cop out and say he's too nice so we don't hurt his feeling by saying he's boring. Its like what guys and girls do when they say "its not you, its me" or "lets just be friends"

  6. trisha says:

    About the dressing reason – you don't have to be a 'metrosexual' to know how to dress yourself decently. That's called being an adult…

    1. KenniBakes says:

      Agreed! Don't get mad that no one wants to date you because you're wearing a striped shirt with an argyle sweater and track pants.

    2. The Dude says:

      You're expecting us to act like adults…that's a heck of a compliment.

  7. Katie Garrity - North Central College says:

    These are all real reasons that I have heard (and said) about guys. I think the whole "too nice" thing is kind of bullshit, BUT the reason why we say that is because we like the chase just as much as guys do. A guy who is constantly contacting us/complimenting us is a turn off which I realize makes no sense. Girls are just as much as mystery to themselves as they are to men.

    Great article! :)

  8. Alissa says:

    Women turn down guys for dumb reasons but it goes the other way also. As for the dressing, facial hair, height trio, didn't you just write an article about looks being important to guys? Why can't they be important to girls? Height might be one thing that is uncontrollable but facial hair and attire? Within a man's sphere of influence. Are a lot of women really shallow in their reasons to date? Of course but guys, as long as we are making sweeping generalizations here, are the exact same. I think people are attracted to what they're attracted to and its not up to anyone to say whether that is right or wrong (even if it does pertain to socio-economic status. Sorry, for some its attractive. Or bust size. Again, could be important) because even if it is a superficial part of a person, its still part of the person.

    1. The Dude says:

      YES! Go Alissa! I agree, EVERYONE has their shallow and superficial peevey reasons we turn others down or things we find ourselves attracted to. Are they right or wrong? Who knows? I have my opinion, you've got yours, and everyone else has their own as well. Be careful of the flip side, it might not be up to anyone to say something's right or wrong, but that doesn't stop EVERYONE from having an opinion whether something's right or wrong and using their right to voice that opinion. Here, I'm poking and prodding because a lot of people may not even realize they have these kinds of tendencies, preferences, or patterns. And awareness is the name of the game because that can only lead to acceptance of one's self or a decision to change for what one believes is the better in his/her own opinion.

  9. Lexie says:

    I have dated a guy that was too nice and I’ll never do it again. I am not the kind of person that likes being the center of attention and in an effort to be nice he made everything about me. A relationship is supposed to be a two-way street and it’s not any fun when it isn’t. I also constantly felt like a horrible person because I couldn’t keep up with how nice he was. Also, there is a difference between being a good person and being a nice person.

    1. Nevi says:

      "Also, there is a difference between being a good person and being a nice person."

      I completely agree with this statement.

  10. Nevi says:

    The "too nice" worry has some merit, though. I've met more than enough people who have only acted nice for ulterior motives, and usually they happen to be the ones who try exceedingly hard to be accommodating. That type of "nice" is unrealistic and suspicious, in my opinion.

    1. Nevi says:

      lol @ this site censoring "su[s p i c ]ious"

  11. Polly says:

    I like tall guys- I'm attracted to them! I feel like it's kind of like how guys like some girls with bigger busts and some guys like 'em smaller. I like them taller. It's just how we are and really I don't feel bad not being attracted to short guys, it's just how I am. Other girls like short guys and they can fall in love and have short babies together.

    1. The Dude says:

      I sense a fear of producing short offspring from your comment…It is what it is to be attracted to one type or another, but just realize that you can choose to change your pattern, any pattern, with enough determination. So, if all the tall guys strike out, you still have the option to go the opposite route (and I'm sure height wouldn't be the only, or even most important, pattern you'd be looking to break).

    2. Jackie says:

      I'm not gonna lie, I'm guilty of the tall preference. But it's only because I'm 5'8 (relatively tall for a girl, and in heels forget about it) and I've dated shorter guys and its extra awkward. Not hating on shorter guys, but thats just a thing for me.

    3. The Dude says:

      If it's a thing for you then it's a thing for you. A lot of people just have their things. Personally, I've always been super attracted to taller women, your height or higher. The fact you've given the shrimps a shot is wonderful.

  12. Nicola says:

    hah okay the facial hair thing can be dumb, but I think you definitely need to consider the facial hair situation. Cool-dude stubble? Sure. Maybe even a little beard situation is fine. But I think it's a generally known fact that if you are working a handle bar mustache, a goatee, or a beard exceeding 3 inches, you'll strike out more than LMFAO in a lesbian bar……

  13. Iris says:

    I'll concede most of these, but will defend the height thing. I'm 6 foot tall and have gone through a lot of my life looming over people and feeling like a giant. Going out with a guy who's shorter than me would just make that worse. It's hard to be a tall girl!

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  15. Jenna says:

    I think more often than not "too nice" either means boring or has no opinions of his own.

  16. Ashley- GWU says:

    "Too-nice" guys! I'll date you!

    1. Swag? Swag. says:

      You single gurl?!?!?

    2. DrGarnicus says:

      Nice smile!

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  19. Bee says:

    Did you perhaps consider that a woman turns down a man (or vice versa, for that matter) because she isn't interested in him? (!!!)

    1. The Dude says:

      Of course! But that's a different article to be written on a different day…

  20. Dana says:

    #1 we cant make it easy for guys, they have to put in work because WE r worth it n if he doesnt think so than keep it movin, he doesn’t belong with her anyway. #2 if he doesnt make enough money, than he wants his woman to pick up the slack, if he makes “to much” than he probably works too much, then she is in a relationship with who? #3 if fashion is important to the woman but not the man HOW is he going to understuand her? And if his shoes r raggedy, what does his breath smell like? Have some pride @ least keep the kicks fresh! But hey! Do u but hit on a chick who also has no fashion sense and raggedy shoes ur perfect together.

    My last point. I AM SOO SICK of “its cuz I’m too nice?” No, its not cuz ur too nice, u have no swag or ur not my type or get some proactive grown man we aint in h.s. anymore or a plethora other reasons! No WOMAN WANTS AN ASSHOLE! BUT, when a guy is always “nice” to everyone, its not that special when he’s nice to her.

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  22. rebecca says:

    There's nothing bogus or narcissistic about a girl saying she's focusing on herself right now. What if say that things she's focusing on about herself is say, a heroine addiction, that she needs to take care of before she feels she can handle a relationship. Or maybe her life is just a total mess and she doesn't feel she can be as giving as she wants to be or that there's just too much going on and there's no room for it. If she's saying that either she's blowing you off or she's trying to say in a delicate way that she's so fucked up that not even she thinks being with her is a good idea right now. Either way, that's not a bullsh*t reason.

  23. Pearson says:

    The only no-go for me are creepers. The kind of guy that cant take no for an answer and keeps texting you for weeks/months after youve quit responding. …and i like hair. I just dont find bald attractive.

    Other than that…job, height, whatever….its all about being attracted to the guy. I could care less about the rest.

  24. Rodney says:

    Weak article. Saw the title, wanted to like it. But it was neither informative nor amusing. You didn't even get into the "Too nice"-comment, which as Jes said in the comments, really means "too boring", or "not sexually exciting". Or did you not realize that? Obviously you weren't setting out to pen a definitive guide to female dating psychology, but even as a fluff-piece this is barely passable. C+, try harder.

    1. The Dude says:

      Critiques are always appreciated, Rodney. Thank you for commenting and reading. Come back next time for the reversal and see if I warrant a better grade.

  25. melodie says:

    What about the chicks version. 11 reasons guys don't date chicks.

    1. The Dude says:

      Next Dude's List…

    2. easygoing says:

      11 reasons guys dont date chicks… hmm…. NONE any guy will date any chick for any reason no matter what… case closed.

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  27. YouareaFail says:

    So according to this article, if a woman turns down a homeless balding limping dwarf with a huge scraggly beard who comes up to her and says, "You have great knees. I’ll bet they look better by your ears” and she responds "I'd rather focus on me right now…" then she must be a discriminating bitch? Fail.

    1. The Dude says:

      I love this response! LMAO

      And maybe? Don't know if her rejecting him outright would make her a bitch, not sure any of these preferences one way or the other makes someone a bitch. I don't think they're necessarily deciding factors. People have quirks and preferences and phobias about all sorts of stuff, some might be higher strung or higher maintenance about some of them but that doesn't automatically make them bitches. Plus, why can't a person be bitchy about one thing and not about everything else? Would that make them a bitch? You've opened up a whole different philosophical/sociological debate that I'd love to write about. Thanks!

    2. Jackie says:

      So hilarious.

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  30. Andrea says:

    I'm not gonna lie, I do almost all of these.

  31. Kelsey says:

    I love so many of these things in a guy! Bald guys are sexy, I mean look at Vin Diesel :) and facial hair? Don't get me started, Movember is my favorite time of the year!! A geek that is ridiculously nice and has a fantastic mustache or beard is my kind of guy. If he has a good job and is taller than me that wouldn't hurt either. But I really just want a guy that gets my geeky references to Doctor Who and Chuck without looking at me like im fricking psycho, is that too much to ask?

    The thing that you aren't really thinking about is that everyone is attracted to different people, but in the end men and women alike are all looking for someone that they will be happy with whether its because they love that person or they love that persons money. Picking our mate is a survival method. I sound like such a romantic narcisist but this is true most of the time. Not to say that there aren't people out there that don't go for money and security but it is an important factor in finding someone to spend the rest of your life with.

    But the nice guy thing I totally don't get, I guess if he was too happy all the time maybe because its difficult to be around people that never show any other type of emotion, but too nice?! That bitch that breaks up with the insanely nice guy, be fucking crazy!!!

    1. The Dude says:

      Responding to paragraph 1: You're a shining example of the girls I'm NOT writing about. I even have a couple of guy friends who would totally be your ideal guy. Actually, you're ideal guy would mostly be my ideal woman (apart from the facial hair).

      Responding to paragraph 2: There are so many things I don't think about. But mating as a survival tactic. How Darwinian.

      Responding to paragraph 3: Agreed.

      Were you happy with Chuck's ending?

  32. UAwildcats says:

    Ok I understand that it seems ridiculous to turn down a guy for being too nice, but this is normally because he refuses to be bold and assertive! Also, just as guys like the chase, girls do to! Nice guys to girls are like desperate girls to guys…we want to get someone we feel worthy of.

  33. Annamaria says:

    I'm actually really attracted to geeks.They're adorable.Although this is based on Chuck.I think Chuck's my ideal guy.My pet peeve is deliberate stupidity.That just annoys me so much intelligence is not something to be suppressed.Beards? If you look like Gandalf or a werewolf then it's weird.It actually looks good in some cases, take the writer for example.Height, I don't really care I'm quite short so most guys are taller than me anyway.As long as his face isn't level with my chest (highly unlikely) I'm good.The 11th one makes no sense AT ALL.I actually know some girls who do this it is so mean.After the guy was really nice to you, you ditch him.

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