Would You Let Chris Brown Beat You Up?
It was just over three years ago that we got news of Chris Brown’s assault on Rihanna. The chilling police report released just a month later detailed the few minutes of violence that will forever haunt Rihanna (and Chris Brown, for that matter). And yet, people, specifically teenage girls, have already forgiven Brown for this brutal violence. After the Grammys this Sunday, twitter was overflowing with tweets about Chris Brown getting an award for the Best R&B Album of the Year. While I expected tweets in disagreement with this award, the reality is quite disturbing. Tweets such as, “I’d let Chris Brown beat me up anytime” and “I don’t know why Rihanna complained. Chris brown could beat me anytime he wanted to” were going viral across the US and UK.
Keeping the details of this gruesome police report in mind, I immediately questioned the sanity of these girls. While I am sure that (the majority of) these girls don’t actually want Chris Brown to beat them, it’s still incredibly unsettling that they would even say such a thing. I know he’s talented. I know he’s attractive, but that never makes it OK to even touch a woman without her permission. I don’t care who he is. These tweets also raise the question of “what draws girls to someone who beats a woman?” I can’t overlook his past, but I’m assuming these girls are attracted to the mixture of his looks, talent, and bad-boy attitude that was only enhanced by the abuse. (Truthfully, I’d rather date the nice guy.) Some girls might be attracted to this, but I don’t think they are fully grasping the inhumanity of Chris Brown’s actions.
That said, I do not think that Chris Brown should be punished and exiled forever. People get angry and do stupid things. As long as he knows he made a mistake, gets help and works his ass off to be a better person, I think that he could be forgiven. Based on the way he has acted in the past three years, I don’t think this is in the near future, but I do believe in second chances. However, even if Chris Brown magically becomes a better person and moves on from this event, the tweets from this weekend are still inappropriate.
To the girls that are asking for Chris Brown to beat them: read the police report. I’m warning you that it’s gruesome and it’s cruel. If you don’t want to read the details, I will tell you now that you definitely do not want this happening to you regardless of how “hot” and “sexy” he is. I would never wish this on anyone and my hope for all of you is to have enough self-respect not to ask for something so emotionally and physically traumatic.
My final words: Go for the nice guy that uses his words to explain why he’s upset instead of his fists to show that he’s angry. I promise you’ll be much happier in the end.
Ashley is a freshman at George Washington University and she’s majoring in Overanalyzing Situations and International Affairs. Follow her on twitter @ashleybrooks25