The Point of Dry Humping and Other Obscure Sexual Activities

March 6, 2012 12:00 pm     Posted in Relationships, Sex  Katie G. - North Central College g+ page


By Katie G.

Dry humping. What the hell is it? And is it just something for sexually inexperienced high school kids? It’s pretty much the act of “getting it on” without actually “getting it on” — sex with clothes on. I’ve heard it called “outercourse,” “non-penetrative sex” and “heavy petting.” I’d go ahead and say that grinding on the dance floor to “Get Low” could even be considered dry-humping.

So on that note, I’m just going to come out and say it: I am a fan of the dry hump. Believe it or not, it is actually possible to climax from dry humping. I can testify. I also know a lot of people who are fans of the clothed horizontal mambo and don’t mind keeping their clothes on for a night. Some may still wonder what the point of it is when you can just get down to business right away, but they may be missing one important “plus” to these frisky moves: foreplay.

As per usual during a weekly girls’ night, we got onto the topic of sex and the importance of foreplay. For the most sexual encounters (minus the “quickies” before work or class), foreplay is definitely important! Slowly building up to an amazing sexual encounter makes that climax even more memorable. It’s not about the destination, but rather the journey, right?

Sex acts such as dry-humping, intense massaging, deep kissing, etc. all matter. They all help lead up (or sometimes don’t depending on your cup of tea) to the big main event: sexual intercourse. These tamer sexual acts work as a slow — but wonderful! — progression to the actual act of having sex. Another way that these obscure sexual activities work to the advantage of us girls is that if it’s our “time of the month” these are all still fair game! “Period Week” does not have to be synonymous with “Blow Job Week,” ladies. Let’s remember that. We’re allowed to get a little lovin’ too!

So lastly, to answer the question of how old is too old to dry-hump? I say you’re never too old! Yes, dry-humping, erotic massaging and hardcore make out sessions are all better alternatives for younger kids who aren’t ready to “go all the way,” but that doesn’t mean that these acts are “too young” for us older folks! Get your dry-hump on!

Katie is finishing up her undergrad at North Central College in Naperville, Illinois. She enjoys wasting hours on Facebook and tweeting things no one cares about. When asked the question, “Do you do marathons?” She promptly responds, “Of course! Which show?” Follow her @KatieGarrity!

11 Comments on "The Point of Dry Humping and Other Obscure Sexual Activities"

  1. katie says:
    Tue, 6th Mar 20121:04 pm 

    I agree! I love it! My boyfriend and I were each other's first. Dry humping was something we experimented with before going all the way and I quite enjoy it. He would rather just have sex cause the excess friction from our clothes tends too be too much but those days when we were first experimenting are quite the memory :)

  2. owl_love_u says:
    Wed, 7th Mar 201211:42 am 

    I love to make out, dry humping is a plus.

  3. Carrie says:
    Wed, 7th Mar 20124:52 pm 

    Agreed!

  4. figleaf says:
    Fri, 9th Mar 20121:29 pm 

    Yes! At least for heteros we're so conditioned to think of PIV intercourse as "home plate," with everything else as just intermediate stages you have to get to in order to "score" that, once a couple finally does get to intercourse it's easy to sort of forget just how good all those other "bases" feel.

    And… I don't know, it just seems that the whole "get to home" mentality makes us forget that there are actually a lot of other perfectly marvelous ways to get each other's rocks off that don't involve intercourse. Or even taking our clothes off. "Dry humping" being one of the better ones.

    By the way, I've now said "dry humping" as many times as I can stand. I can't say how much I hate that term! It's a seriously dismissive term for a terrifically intimate, sensual, almost completely STI and pregnancy risk free, and often highly orgasmic act. A lot of great terms we might otherwise use are already being used for other things, and so it might be hard to start calling it something like lap dancing or grinding. But I'd love to find a new, more appealing sounding name for it.

    One funny thing about grinding I noticed years ago is that pretty much all the talk about how it's hard for women to have orgasms during sex? Or how women are slow to have orgasms compared to men? Not so with grinding. If anything it's the other way around! Of all the things I've done with partners involving hands, genitals, mouths, and most toys I don't think anything has been more reliable or quicker with more partners than plain old fashioned grinding through jeans with a heaping side order of passionate kissing on the couch. It's one of maybe only a few things men and women can do together where (on average, with mileage obviously varying) it takes longer for the man to get off than the woman.

    Anyway. Thanks for the reminder, Katie. Grinding is good stuff!

    figleaf

  5. John says:
    Mon, 10th Sep 20121:18 pm 

    Love to dry hump alright, and then you would be gagging for my 10 inches inside you ;)

  6. Bibiana says:
    Mon, 17th Sep 20122:05 am 

    I have always loved outercourse more than intercourse.To me intercouese is boring and anticlimactic. I don’t. know why people make such a big deal over it.

  7. sheddie says:
    Tue, 5th Mar 201310:33 am 

    Dry humping is awesome, as it can help u avoid pregnancy and STI

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