An Open Letter To Rihanna

Dear Rihanna,

First of all, I think you’re awesome. Your songs are catchy, and you’ve had us girls dancing like no one was watching since “Pon De Replay” came out. You’ve got some fierce style and an even more feisty attitude. You change your hair without looking like a maniac (here’s looking at you Nicki Minaj), and you can make a black gown the sexiest dress on the planet. Most of us are usually on your side. Although, I don’t forgive you for doing Bring It On 4: All Or Nothing. We don’t have to talk about that.

You’ve been through a lot, and we were so proud of you for cutting your crazy ex out of your life. You were a great role model for girls dealing with serious issues. But then y’all did that weird musical mash-up on each others albums and were speculated to be back together. And then you had a sleepover at Ashton Kutcher’s house and freaked out at a reporter. And then you were spotted rolling something on your bodyguard’s head at Coachella. And then you go tweeting things with a mouth that I know you don’t kiss your grandmother with.

What’s going on, RiRi? I mean, you’re a gorgeous, smart, talented young woman who has an incredible fan base. You’re 24 years old, and I understand that your fans are growing up too. But you don’t need a Miley “Can’t Be Tamed” moment. Everyone already knows you’re sexy and grown-up. You’ve gone from being a role model to running out of effs to give from zero to sixty. I’m surprised by your sudden “thug life” mentality. You’re an adult, and you can do what you want but consider your influence over young girls. Britney and Christina went through this too. You don’t want your fans to get in the way of growing up, but there’s a difference between being super sexual and condoning drug use and thug life when you have a large fan base of young girls.

Just think about it, okay?

We still love you, and I’m really excited for your next album.

Caitlin is a senior at the University of Alabama who has an obsession with cupcakes, coffee, and Harry Potter. She always has random fun facts on reserve and aspires to be a professional blogger, social media bug, and/or James Franco’s assistant. Follow her fabulous life @caitlincorsetti. You’re welcome!

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    1. Sophia says:


    2. Amy says:

      disagree. every girl who doesn't find that fairy tale life needs to go out and enjoy themselves the best way they can… and there's a lot of us who do the wrong thing and have people talk shit about us. But we are enjoying our lives after an awful breakup even a couple years later. Let her live her life. She's not here to be a role model. She's here to live the live she was given and has worked for. You're not here for a long time, you're here for a good time. I respect you RiRi!

      1. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:

        I never said I don't respect her. There's a difference between people who are in the public eye and us "regular" folks. I've done things that I'm sure people don't approve of, but I'm not a celebrity with thousands of young girls looking up to me. She's said she doesn't want to be a role model, but that doesn't mean she should disregard the fact that she is one.

    3. Abby says:

      She tries so hard to rebel to "be" a bad girl but it doesn't ever appear edgy just like she is an attention whore and is spoilt.

    4. Renee says:

      I completely disagree with you. I love the fact that she does what the hell ever she wants and doesn't give much thought on how people think. As a society we put women in this TINY box of what they should be and freak the fuck out when they refuse to stay in it. She made a song with her ex?? Big freaking deal….are we really going to condemn her for NOT holding a grudge against him? Rather than freaking on "o shes a bad role model for forgiving her ex(not that I agree with what CB did)…How about we yell about our society that more times than not places rape and sexual assault incidences and the victims fault. 12 years old getting raped and saying its their fault b/c they were dressed too grown, women in the military who are labeled as legally insane and ejected from their job for reporting a rape…lets worry about that

      The foul language on social media……Social media is there for self expression and if she wants to use colorful language to do so….so be it.The weed use??? For real honestly who ever died from using weed? If they can legalize it for "medical" uses in certain states why don't we just legalize it in general? Alcohol, prescription drugs, and certain medical procedures do WAY more harm than weed has ever done to people in my opinion. When she went to Barbados and participated in a festival she got slammed for being scantly clad. That us her culture, not every culture teaches girls that they need to be ashamed on their bodies and sexuality.(not saying they do it all the time b/c there is a time and place for everything)

      I'm not trying to bash your opinion(even is it sounds like I am I'm honestly not trying to) because believe me I can see where you are coming from. I am however just sick of how we as a society try to bring women down especially when they don't fit into(or want to fit into) that "perfect proper women mold" I love that how no matter how man times the media/society has tried to destroy Rihanna she just rises from it stronger than ever and still true to herself. Me being a fellow black women I have GREAT respect for that(not trying to throw in the race card but hey it's true) Shes not perfect nor does she try to be. It just shows some realness and "humanness" that makes her relate-able, believable and like a really cool girl I'd LOVE to hang out with.

      1. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:

        I think you've blown this way out of proportion. I don't think women should be find into the "perfect proper women mold" as you said. I could have written the same kind of letter to Amanda Bynes, but she hasn't been relevant in a while. I love Rihanna, and I think she's extremely talented. However as a celebrity, no matter who you are, you have to look at your audience and realize who is listening to you and imitating your actions. She doesn't even necessarily stay true to herself because she's constantly changing "who she is" for her next single, so it's a little hard to keep up.

    5. MaG says:

      girl you hit it RIGHT ON. some crazy bad decisions to influence many younger impressionable girls!

    6. brimorgan27 says:

      I totally agree with you !!!!

    7. the dominator says:

      she isn't attractive by a long-shot. she has the face of an overgrown fetus.

    8. Alex says:

      she never signed up to be anyone's role model

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