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What’s the Deal With Kinky Sex? [He Said/She Said]

The wild success of 50 Shades of Grey has inspired this week’s He Said/She Said topic. The “mommy porn” book, which I admittedly have not read, features more than a few steamy sex scenes. Word on the street is that there’s a lot of spanking and hair pulling and chains and whips and excitement. Rihanna would be proud, to say the least. Since everyone and their mother (literally) is reading this page-turner, it’s no surprise that talk of kinky sex has been circulating among groups of friends all over the country. As a matter of fact, we were discussing this very matter in the CollegeCandy/COED offices today.

One major point of contention arose when the subject of spanking was brought up. Some people think it’s degrading, others think it’s a harmless turn-on. Honestly, I don’t see where the problem lies. If I’m in a respectful, mature relationship and my boyfriend/hookup makes moves to smack my butt, I’m going to green-light it. In my opinion, when it comes to the extra bells and whistles — or handcuffs — everything can be good in moderation. After all, you don’t need to be a dominatrix to get in touch with your more adventurous side; just put your game face on and make sure you’re not taking on more than you can handle.

To that point, I don’t want to hook up with someone who beats the crap out of me while narrating the scene in his best dirty talk persona. Seriously, guys, just shut up and talk with your d*ck (for the record, this is my new favorite phrase). Hearing 73 different slang words for “vagina” isn’t really a turn on. Rule of thumb, pick one taboo technique to conquer at a time and leave the rest alone.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the details of “Having Kinky Sex” that you lose sight of what it’s all about — having fun. Do you have any tips about broadening your sexual horizons? How do you feel about spanking?

To see what He Said about kinky sex, head over to COEDMagazine.com!

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    2. kate says:

      everything is okay as long as both partners are okay with it. i think its silly that people need to read a book to figure that out…and that people find it controversial. we all need to stop calling things taboo… and just do what makes you feel good.

    3. Joyce says:

      I love being spanked!

    4. Theo Black says:

      i want

    5. In what world is spanking even remotely kinky anymore? It's so common now. Blindfolds, handcuffs, etc… they're all pretty vanilla in this day & age. Let's talk when what you're doing requires a safe word!

    6. Ariel Jordan says:

      I agree with Kate. You shouldn't really be sleeping with anyone who you don't feel comfortable with anyhow, and if you feel threatened, it's a good sign that it's time to head for the hills. That said–kinky sex can be so fun! If you're in a safe, caring relationship, it can really help things heat up to pull out the occasional blindfold or handcuffs! Don't believe me? Try it! http://blissfulgoodies.com/Bondage-Starter-Kit/sk

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