11 Things He Should Have Been Upfront About! [Dude’s List]

Ever look back on a relationship and say, “God, if only I’d known all this crap a the beginning”? I know I have. I know I still do. I know that I probably will in the future, hopefully not the near future, but I admit the possibility. Hindsight’s the most perfect vision there is. Look, it isn’t always feasible or conceivable to know everything that’s going to clearly point out things will not end well. And not everything you wish you knew right at the beginning is necessarily a deal breaker, but there’re things that are important enough to warrant disclosure. And while, yes, in the linear timeline we are forced to live within a lot of the big stuff does come out eventually, it doesn’t hurt to take stock of what we wish we’d known. Even if only as a way to help you approach the next relationship. These are 11 things you wish he’d been upfront about and thus could have saved you some serious grief!

So there you have it, ladies. Almost a dozen damn things that you can look back on and say, “It’d have been nice to know THAT!” Again, disclaimer, not all of these need necessarily be deal breakers but they’d have been useful knowledge. The fact is that we never fully know what to expect from another person. We’re filled with quirks, habits and small moments of eccentricity that we never think about being a big deal to others. Well, kids, it seems pretty obvious, I’ll give you that…

Did I miss any? What are things you wish you’d known at the beginning that you were complicating things for you near the end?

Being An Open Book,

The Dude



  1. William says:

    Ever look back on a relationship and say, “God, if only I’d known all this crap a the beginning”?

    1. sue says:

      Umm duh thats what this whole articles about..

  2. Jen says:

    I once dated a Neo-Nazi by mistake. We went on a few dates and had a great time together but when we ended up at the pool and he had a swastika tattoo-I was mortified.

    1. The Dude says:

      If I could go back and add a number 12 to this list, this would be it…

  3. Betty says:

    Statutory rapist. Slept with a REALLY young girl while being a grown a** “man”. Married him and didn’t know…I’m trying to fix this mess since it was three years into the damn marriage that I found out. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t even remember what the bastard looks like.

    1. Dave says:

      he must've been a really deceptive person, or you were very trusting. Most statutory rapists or sex offenders of any kind are required to register their addresses and occasionally have cops come by to verify these addresses on a regular basis. So unless he had a false address, then you must've been blind.

  4. stephanie says:

    Mine had a very codpendent relationship with his ex wife, who he had no children or ties to. She always came first, everything else second.

  5. Well for me it is #1 and #2. We are 11 years into it now.

  6. elizabeth says:

    I only had a very manipulative ex who turned me against my whole family and I was going to live with him in NY when we had never seen each other except once. If it tells u anything I gave up going to the Navy for the asshole. Thank God for my husband he saved my life

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