An Open Letter to My Slutty Friend

May 28, 2012 3:00 pm     Posted in College, Homepage Exclusive, Reality  Courtney - Bridgewater State University g+ page


By Courtney

Hey girl, how’s it going? Haven’t seen you in a while. I know we’ve both started the whole “we’re too old to be dancing on tables and taking body shots” thing, but I was thinking about the good ol’ days and was hoping you’d reminisce with me.

Although I could never quite match your ways, i.e. your “dresses” that I was sure were actually shirts, those occasional crotchless pants, and that see-through tube top I never wanted to borrow, it was still fun to pretend I was on your level.

And as much as I enjoyed walking slightly behind you when entering a party, because “people were more interested in seeing you first,” I can’t say I’m terribly sad about that part of my life being over. Don’t get me wrong, I always thoroughly enjoyed defending you after you felt up someone’s boyfriend. But I gotta say, not having to drag you away from yet another fight has been really great.

I know this might be kind of awkward for you, after all you never fully embraced your title as being “the slutty friend,” but I wasn’t sure how else to reach out, you know just to make sure things were going okay. I also just wanted to quickly address a few things. Call me passive aggressive if you must, but your cell phone has been shut off and you haven’t been on Facebook in weeks.

Okay, so just to quickly clear the air, I was a tad jealous of you freshman year. However, I was not in love with you, as you so kindly suggested. And although it was nice of you to then point me to LGBTA group, I wasn’t really interested in coming out of a closet I wasn’t in. But, I wanted to thank you for introducing me into some great people, even if it did take half a year to convince them I really am straight.

I get it. College was new for you. You weren’t used to having all of this freedom and were ready to let loose. But please, take it from one of your ex-friends, do not take it out on your true friends. The ones who were there for you, even when you treated them like stepping stones. I do hope you are doing well,  enjoying life after college. And, I hope the next time you go to slap the bag that you think (just for one second) about the fun times we had.

10 Comments on "An Open Letter to My Slutty Friend"

  1. Katie says:
    Mon, 28th May 20126:13 pm 

    Just because someone is more sexually active than you doesn't mean they have to accept being the "slutty" friend. If you have a true conflict with this person, then address that. But you don't need to attack their sexual choices as a way of getting back at them. Their clothing choices and sexual choices are not for you to judge.

  2. Anonymous says:
    Mon, 28th May 201210:13 pm 

    Oops! I think you should've kept this post to yourself. I have a friend who reminds me of the girl you have just described. Yeah, she disappears on me every now and then. That's fine. I have other friends. And yeah, I wish I had the confidence and charisma to pick up guys and go out on dates. But, I guess that's just my choice not to.

    She later feels guilt about it. But, I say DON'T. I could never pull off hooking up with rando's here and there but if it's her preference then, good for her. I won't judge.

    My mantra is as long as everyone's happy, it's fine by me.

  3. Danielle says:
    Mon, 28th May 201211:35 pm 

    I totally agree with you that someone shouldn't be classified as a slut for being more sexually active. However, I HAD a friend who was very similar to the one described here and the point is not that she was more promiscuous it was that she did not care how many people she hurt while doing it (hence we are not friends anymore). I don't like the word "slut" either way, but I understand what the author was trying to say.

  4. mk5 says:
    Tue, 29th May 20124:52 am 

    Is anyone else sick of slut shaming? The fact that you are calling this girl your "slutty friend" means that you are not her friend. While it's ok to dislike her because she treats people poorly

  5. mk5 says:
    Tue, 29th May 20124:56 am 

    Oops, I pressed send a little to early. Anyways I meant to say that while it's ok to dislike her because she treats others poorly, disliking her because she's "a slut" is really judgmental. It would be just as bad not to like someone because they're "a prude".

  6. Sarah says:
    Tue, 29th May 201211:36 pm 

    Yea, I feel lik you're just bitter that she had more fun in college than you did.

  7. Lex says:
    Wed, 30th May 20123:50 pm 

    Getting mad at her for how she treated you is fine. But the slut-shaming in this post is disgusting. Seriously College Candy, what the fuck?

  8. Lena says:
    Sun, 3rd Jun 20121:42 am 

    Doesn't sound like you were the greatest friend, either. If she treats you this way, obviously she doesn't see you as a good friend, or enough to answer your calls anyway. I wouldn't really like someone who called me a slut and was jealous and bitter towards me, either.

  9. margomania says:
    Fri, 8th Jun 20122:14 pm 

    +1

  10. whataboutthis says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 201211:12 pm 

    So yes this was posted long ago, but there is another way to look at this post. The word slut originally came from sultry, which means attractive in a way that suggests a passionate nature. The friend described seems to fit this definition. She acted how she wanted, when she wanted. When the occasion arises I tend to act this way myself. The author is clearly missing the friendship a bit, probably because it was exciting and was a peak into a lifestyle she didn't want to commit to. Readers, don't be too harsh on your judgment either, surprisingly many girls have a "slutty friend," she was just brave enough to admit it.

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