5 Rules For A Drama-Free Summer Fling [Sexy Time]

By Jasmine R.

Ah, summer is just around the corner. Which means longer days, fewer clothes, more happy hours and the imminent possibility of a summer fling with someone sexy. While the appeal of a summer fling lies in the fact that it is nonchalant, commitment free and totally insignificant in the grand scheme of things, there are still some ground rules that apply. Because being casual doesn’t mean completely disregarding the fact that a relationship of sorts is being formed.

1. Be honest

Don’t string along someone and make it seem like you’re interested in something more serious than you actually are. Not everyone has that “fling” mentality, and it would behoove you to make your intentions known upfront and clearly. If you’re on the same page, fabulous. If not, then you can go your separate ways with little to no harm done. Conversely, if you find yourself falling hard for your fling, you need to either tell them or break it off. Nothing positive will come from not acknowledging your feelings.

2. Manage expectations.

This tip is crucial for people who are generally serial monogamists and don’t really do no-strings-attached things. As a fling, you are not going to be the number one priority in your partner’s life. They will probably prioritize their friends, or their job, or their masturbation time over you from time to time, and as long as they’re not total jerks about it, you can’t really call them out on it.

3. Have an expiration date.

The whole point of a fling is that it is short-lived (as opposed to nebulous friends-with-benefits situations). If you are dedicating to the fling concept, you both need to decide when it’s time to end it, especially if it wouldn’t happen naturally (ie, one or both of you leaving town).

 4. Don’t abandon your standards.

Don’t settle for just any random, available penis or vagina. This is someone you could be spending time with for 3-4 months, so it’s perfectly fine to want to hang out with someone who you can occasionally have a moderately interesting conversation with.

5. Get adventurous. 

Take advantage of this opportunity to push your boundaries, try out things you’ve never had the opportunity to do, and just generally have a blast getting to know someone new. Try new positions, hook up in different locales, really embrace the whole experience.

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