Going Crush Crazy [Diary of the Undateable]

June 1, 2012 5:00 pm     Posted in Homepage Exclusive, Relationships  Khalea - Howard University g+ page


By Khalea

A perk of being the oldest child in a huge family is seeing—and preventing—the mistakes that the younger peeps make. Take my little cousin for example. She’s a fun and precocious second grader and pretty darn cute, too. Last week she told me all about James, a dreamy dude in her class with a mohawk. Little cousin is one of the smartest students in her class with a stellar report card to prove it. But one mention of James sends her sense out of the window. She’s like…me.

I’ve been boy crazy since my grade school days too (is it bad that I often search for my elementary crushes on Facebook with full names and everything?). 13 years later, nothing has changed. Don’t get me wrong…I know that it’s totally normal to have a guy – or guys — on the brain. But sometimes I feel like I do it way too much!

A good 65% of my mental activity sadly revolves around men from the cute neighbor I see in the hall or my long list of celebrity crushes. Sometimes it makes me feel abnormal. I don’t have a problem completing my day-to-day activities, but boos are usually on the brain while doing them. It’s like I’m breeding a mini Samantha Jones or something.

Whenever I’m really into a guy, he’s all I think about. And talk about. My crushes consume my thoughts and I have to literally shake myself out of it. I have high (and pathetic) hopes that somewhere across town, he’s thinking of me too.

For the entire first half of high school, I obsessed over a kid who didn’t give two s***s about me. I put so much time and energy into getting his attention that my grades noticeably slipped. Though things aren’t that bad anymore, the fact that I give so much power to the opposite sex is scary.

This boy crazy attitude might be acceptable for my cousin and her girls, but me and mine need to do way, way better.

CollegeCandy ladies, do you all get crush crazy sometimes? How do you deal?

When she’s not watching for Blue Ivy sightings or doing some serious Facebook creeping, Khalea moonlights as a print journalism major at the REAL HU, Howard University. Follow her on Twitter at @letsbeKHAlear, or feel free to Twatch. Whatever works for you.

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5 Comments on "Going Crush Crazy [Diary of the Undateable]"

  1. Shawnie says:
    Fri, 1st Jun 20128:30 pm 

    I had that problem this semester. I fell head over heels for this guy who wound up causing me much drama and distress. He consumed my thoughts and conversation so much that I almost lost my best friend because I wasn't paying attention to her. It was a huge wake up call. One of the things that's helped me check that type of behavior is realizing that there are better uses of my time and energy and that by constantly thinking of him, I'm missing m time with other people and things. But it's hard.

  2. Boys_are_dumb says:
    Tue, 5th Jun 20125:21 pm 

    I love your articles! I'm the same way sometimes. The thing I've learned though is you have to pretend to not care about a guy while staying in their radar.

    The second you let them think you really like them a lot and not a little, they lose interest. Stupid boys.

  3. julie says:
    Sat, 9th Jun 201212:01 pm 

    I'm just like you and it happens to me all the time. So I decided I won't date anyone until I finish college. Lol, I know it's not a solution but it works for me. Just 3 more years to wait!

  4. Nicole says:
    Mon, 11th Jun 20129:14 pm 

    Same thing happened to me last semester, although I had a crush on a friend of mine and wouldn't admit it. Eventually my closest friend got it out of me, then it spread a little…I was on the verge of telling him when summer break hit. Letting it out gave me the perspective that it probably wouldn't be a good match, and now he's no longer taking up all my thoughts. :) He found out eventually, but it was fine, he wasn't interested in my as more than a friend and were able to laugh about it. And I'm glad I spent so much time worrying about him, because he's a hard person to get close to and crushing on him gave me the motivation to do so. So now I have a great friend and a lot more mental free time.

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