Is Lingerie Necessary? [Ask A Dude]

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Hey Dude,

So what do guys really think about lingerie? I recently spent $80 on this super hot outfit and was super excited to wear it for my boyfriend. And then he immediately took it off of me. He saw it on me for about 30 seconds before he was pulling it off. Is it even worth buying?

Trying to be Sexy

Dear Trying to be Sexy,

You have a vagina, you ARE sexy. Alright, that was a bit crass, apologies for being an ass. But if the question’s “To wear or not to wear?” Then the answer is generally, not to wear. Most guys I know really couldn’t give a flying monkey if their girlfriends are wearing lingerie underneath, unless it’s been a LONG time, or it’s a big date night, and the lingerie is part of a special romantic plan. Then, of course, the lingerie is still probably going to fly off after 30 seconds, unless you’re doing some teasing. However, I will say, those 30 seconds are probably going to be AWE-SOME.

For a lot of guys I know lingerie’s like the wrapping. It’s “shiny!” and surprising when you first see it, but not a crucial part of enjoying the experience. Quite frankly, wearing nothing at all might even be sexier…If we’re in the mood to unwrap, then lingerie adds to the atmosphere. If it’s an occasion, then lingerie adds to the atmosphere. If we’re really f*cking horny, then it’s less important and you could have spent your $80 on something else.

Anticipation and presentation can be two wonderful elements to sex. But the factors vary every time. I was with someone once who put on her high school cheerleading outfit to spice up the evening. It was going to be a surprise. And it was. Unfortunately, I wasn’t in the mood. I had just come in out of a blizzard, wet and tired, having trudged for 20 minutes in the snow to make it 4 blocks to her. I was soaked from head to toe from melting snow–frozen from the tips of my fingers to the soles of my feet. We didn’t have sex that night and it had nothing to do with the outfit.

Make your own fun time. Save your money for the student loans. Unless you’re really in the mood and then just be prepared that it’s not about the amount of time you wear it, but the reaction. If he tears your clothes off, that’s a pretty strong reaction…

Throwing out the Victoria’s Secret catalogues,

The Dude



  1. Tanstaafl2 says:

    It's not the lingerie itself, but what it SAYS. And what it says is that you want to be sexy for him, be desirable for him, and desire him – that is an incredible rush (it's the ultimate "It's the thought that counts"). Hell – anything that shows your enthusiasm for him is incredible! HE doesn't need the lingerie as long as you're getting the point across in other ways. However, if YOU get turned on by wearing sexy lingerie, just let him know and he'll be more than happy to indulge.

    IMPORTANT NOTE! While sexy lingerie is not neccessary, don't ever wear "anti-sexy" clothing to bed. This is stuff that screams, "No sex tonight!", such as big flannel nightgowns, sweatshirt and sweatpants, etc. (these are only permissable if you're sick and you're in bed recuperating.) If you're not going to sleep nude or in your undies, just make sure to wear something feminine.

  2. Sarah says:

    I learned not to bother with nice lingerie on my boyfriend's account a long time ago because I realised it would never stay on for long….I wear it to get myself in the mood, so screw him!! (Pun intended.)

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  5. Ariel Jordan says:

    Well, we all know that black matches everything…and the thrill that your man will get from seeing you in these will make it impossible for him to notice whether this matches absolutely anything…in life. You pretty much can't go wrong here. You're welcome!

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