Ridin’ Solo [Diary of the Undateable]
I end up being alone most of the time. It’s so tempting to make a “Hangover” wolf pack reference right now, but it’s true. Of course I have my close girlfriends and an insane amount of relatives, but most of my down time is spent wandering around the city ‘til rush hour is over. And I have no problem with that.
A few years ago, this would never ever happen. Since I’ve been single – well, forever – I’ve relied on my friends as a social crutch. And I’m sure some of you have done the same. We all go to parties together, roam the same stores in the mall and even take restroom breaks in groups. All my single ladies were a unit, and I was dependent upon it.
Now I’m learning how to be alone. That’s one thing that my mom taught me. When you enjoy being by yourself, you don’t need other people for entertainment! Learning how to enjoy your own company when you’re single is tough but necessary…especially when your girls start shooting for #teamtaken.
I was always plagued by the thought of not having anyone to hang out with or talk to since my ‘one’ doesn’t have a ‘plus-one’ yet. What happens when your bestie doesn’t call, your coworkers have after-work dates and your friends are twerking in the club?
You go on the single girl date.
Instead of waiting around for an invite, I just do things myself. It sounds so simple, right? But trust me, becoming more independent is kind of a big deal.
I’m starting small. I’ll read in the park alone. Just me, a dirty green bench and a good novel. For lunch, I’ll eat at smaller restaurants by myself – I haven’t graduated to a solo happy hour or dinner yet, though. I’ve even gotten glammed up and gone to see shows and movies without an entourage.
My goal is to eventually do my dates without a crutch. I like to pretend to be busy on my iPhone or flip through a magazine to look like I’m not lonely. I’ll learn to stop using my phone as a diversion, I’ll make contact with a cute stranger, we’ll end up in an Upper East Side apartment in a few years…okay, okay, I’m getting carried away. But I know that I’m missing many experiences while I look down at my cell or stay at home wishing someone were with me.
CollegeCandy ladies, what’s your fav single girl date?
When she’s not watching for Blue Ivy sightings or doing some serious Facebook creeping, Khalea moonlights as a print journalism major at the REAL HU, Howard University. Follow her on Twitter at @letsbeKHAlear, or feel free to Twatch. Whatever works for you.
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