Yeah I’m Kind Of Embarrassed By Kristen Saban

July 15, 2012 3:00 pm     Posted in Homepage Exclusive  Caitlin Corsetti g+ page


By Caitlin Corsetti

Alright y’all, I’m sure by now you’ve heard of this scandalous lawsuit involving Nick Saban’s daughter, Kristen. If you haven’t that’s okay considering all of us at school didn’t even know why she was kicked out of Phi Mu until now. Things have been kept pretty tightly under wraps. Basically, a drunken argument escalated and Kristen beat the crap out of her best friend and sorority sister, Sarah Grimes. There was hair-pulling, punching, and a lot of blood. Poor Sarah needed nasal reconstructive surgery and therapy afterwards and now she’s suing for $10,000. You can read the full court report, if you wish.

People are going all crazy over this saying it’s her parents’ fault and blah, blah, blah. Well, no it’s not. It’s Kristen’s fault. And as a member of the Alabama family, I can say that I’m a little embarrassed. These things happen everywhere, but she’s in the public eye because her dad is like God in Alabama and is the most watched college football coach these days. So while two other sorority girls are attacking each other and no one knows about it, it doesn’t matter. This however, makes everyone think that this is how sorority girls at Alabama act. And this is simply not the case.

When I went through rush, Kristen was in one of my preference night parties. Everyone knew who she was and heard that she had some issues. Girls would try to talk to her and make friends with her (whether because they wanted to or because they wanted to meet her dad, I’m not sure), but she wasn’t having it. She turned her nose up at everyone around her. I didn’t interact with her at all, but I did notice how snotty she was and definitely had a big chip on her shoulder.

After rush we all found out she pledged Phi Mu, which wasn’t surprising. We all heard rumblings throughout the week that they wanted her, and I don’t think any other house wanted the trouble. We didn’t run in the same circles (as Alabama is huge) and I didn’t go to the same bars, me being a year older. But I ran into Kristen once at the Spirit Halloween Party Store. I didn’t talk to her because 1. I didn’t care and 2. I didn’t have anything to say. We were in the same aisle, made eye contact, and I smiled. She just stared at me. Like it was some foreign concept to smile at someone in your vicinity. Like how dare I smile at a Saban. Please.

So when we all found out that she was kicked out, we again weren’t surprised. We were certainly curious, though. Now that this story has come out, it’s very clear why. Sigh. Before this fight went down, Kristen lost a very dear friend, which I’m sure sent her into an emotional spiral. Still not an excuse, but it may provide some insight into her behavior. I hope she can come through this and get it together.

Anyway, I guess I just want to say please don’t judge my school or Greek system based on some high-profile sorority throw down!

Caitlin is a graduate of the University of Alabama who has an obsession with cupcakes, coffee, and Harry Potter. She always has random fun facts on reserve and aspires to be a professional blogger, social media bug, and/or James Franco’s assistant. Follow her fabulous life @caitlincorsetti. You’re welcome!

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50 Comments on "Yeah I’m Kind Of Embarrassed By Kristen Saban"

  1. Amy says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20123:21 pm 

    The whole tone of this article was pretty gossipy and condescending. I didn't come away after reading this saying, "Whew! Glad that's cleared up. U Alabama and the Greek system aren't so bad!" Instead, you just kinda proved a point by giving your readers more gossip than they ever wanted to know on Kristen Saban.

  2. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20123:52 pm 

    Amy, I'm sorry you feel that way. My intention here isn't to be mean, I'm just giving a truthful account of my run-ins with her. My point is not to judge the UA Greek system based on the actions of someone in the public eye from the university. I wasn't trying to justify what happened or explain it because frankly, I don't really understand these actions in the first place. Basically, this isn't behavior typical to UA students or UA sorority girls in general.

    If me stating the truth about how she acted when I saw her is gossip, then so be it I guess. I believe I did say as well that I hope she can come through this situation, which is 100% true.

  3. John says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20125:02 pm 

    Should I write an article to let everyone know its not typical behavior for UA students to write bitchy, attention-seeking articles when someone screws up? Believe me, this is simply not the case. Hope you get a few more Twitter followers!!!

  4. Jessica says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20125:07 pm 

    Well done Caitlin! I think a lot of people misunderstand Alabama's Greek system because its so large (largest recruitment in the nation like three years running I think?)

    As an SEC sorority girl myself, I think a lot of people misunderstand what sisterhood can mean. Thanks to stupid things like TFM, movies, and that old school MTV show about that sorority in California, we are all dubbed as crazy party girls. Kristen is doing nothing but perpetuating this stereotype! We should all be embarrassed, Phi Mu or not, Alabama student or not, by her behavior. Making you a Saban means there is a higher standard. Live up to it. Making you a Greek woman means there is a higher standard. Live up to it.

  5. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20125:13 pm 

    John, as we are on the internet, by all means you could write such an article. I don't quite see how writing about true events makes this article makes it "bitchy" and "attention-seeking." Half of the things I tweet, post on Instagram, and having a personal lifestyle blog are attention-seeking, if we're going there. This article doesn't really fall into that category. I did not once say anything "bitchy," and I have heard many horrible things thrown around about Kristen. All things that are irrelevant and not important to the point of this article.

    Also, thank you so much for your sarcastic well wishes for more Twitter followers!

  6. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20125:17 pm 

    Thank you, Jessica! It is, we've hit the largest numbers for the past three years.

    I totally agree with you. Most people think sorority girls are running around being drunk and causing havoc, which is really unfortunate. Being in a sorority is an honor, not an excuse to act however you want. And you're absolutely right. Regardless of what letters you're wearing or school you're attending, this behavior isn't okay. There was an incident last semester with a girl getting in a fight from another house, and she was kicked out of her sorority as well. No matter what, it's just not okay.

  7. BamaGirl says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20128:07 pm 

    Interesting article. I can't help but wonder if Kristen has a story in her past or something. Because I've never heard of a girl who gets into fist fights so often. I mean, she even punched a guy in the face! That takes a lot of nerve.

  8. Sarah says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20128:16 pm 

    I agree with Amy and John. You are actually making Alabama sorority girls look worse, not better. Stay above the gossip and don't lower yourself to talking about halloween store encounters where you didn't get a smile from the football coach's daughter. Maybe tell your friends, not the world. The article is most definitely more about your personal issues with Kristen than defending UA's greek system. Maybe you could say more about the good parts of sorority life and how they help the community sometime.

  9. McDougall and Sons says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20128:18 pm 

    This blog post is embarrassing.

  10. Alex says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20128:20 pm 

    I don't feel like this article contributes anything positive or of value to the conversations about her going on these days. What she did was awful and l'm sure you, like most people, feel sorry for her and those involved. And although her actions say a lot about her character, trying to draw your own conclusions about her from literally seconds of eye contact in a store is kind of ridiculous. As others said, this article is just gossipy, and that's it. How would you feel if someone wrote something like this about you? Your first thought would be, "This person doesn't even know me!" right?

  11. Alex says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20128:26 pm 

    Also, why be embarrassed of her? Her actions don't reflect on you at all. Writing a whole blog post about someone you don't even know, who, coach's daughter or not, is NOT a celebrity or public figure, is what reflects on you…

  12. julie says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 20128:58 pm 

    i don't have any sympathy for the damage control your school is going through. last fall, a scandal happened at my school and the entire country felt entitled to comment about it, i couldn't just say "oh, that thing? please don't judge my school or it's athletic program!" without being called a child abuse enabler.

  13. rachel says:
    Sun, 15th Jul 201210:54 pm 

    Hmmmm…cat fight, orrrr multiple decade university administration cover-up of child sex abuse? Sure, I'm a biased Tide fan, but, please, do you REALLY believe those things are comparable? BTW, no one thinks you're a child abuse enabler.

  14. Lynsey says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20121:14 am 

    honestly, i was shocked when i saw this post. . If someone wrote this about me, i would be hurt. How does pointing out someones faults bring about any good? What someone like her needs is love, encouragement and maybe someone to actually care. I have not met her and yes i have heard about some of the things she has done, but I feel that as humans we all have done things we shouldn't. Its called sin. "For ALL have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God" Romans 3:23. Sin is sin. Its equal in God's eyes, but as humans we scale it and somehow get the idea in our head that there is some sin that is not as bad as the other. Well there is not. If i talk bad about someone and just say things that brings down their character and then someone else steals something, they are both seen as sin. I am not posting this to say im perfect and to never have said anything bad about someone cause that is not true, but as a Christian I am trying to hold you accountable as the person I know you are. This article to me does not reflect you as a person and I feel doesnt bring any positive reflection. I wanted to put this scripture from matthew 7 as a reminder for me and everyone, "Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 sFor with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and twith the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but udo not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?" Matthew Henry commentary says also "We must judge ourselves, and judge of our own acts, but not make our word a law to everybody. We must not judge rashly, nor pass judgment upon our brother without any ground. " We are called to build each other up and encourage one another. I hope i can encourage people to actually pray for those that have had rough times. The is so much power in prayer, our world needs more of it. I hope this has encouraged you because it has reminded me of things i need to work on as well.

  15. Sara says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 201210:25 am 

    As a die-hard Tide fan and thus huge Nick Saban fan I didn't find her article offensive. Caitlin did what any sorority sister would do if they felt their image was being tarnished. I believe the point she was trying to make was to not assume that because Kristen is the daughter of Alabama royalty, that she is a fair representation of not only the Greek system, but the U Alabama community in it's entirety. And the smiling thing may not make sense to someone who isn't from the south, but it doesn't matter if she just stole your boyfriend right up from under you, if she smiles you smile back it's courtesy that anyone with manners around here abides by. She seems a tad on the snobby side, and obviously violent, so in true southern dialect "Bless her heart."

  16. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20121:03 pm 

    Thank you Sara. I wish I could have just written a post saying, "Bless her heart" but as a blogger I have a word count to abide by.

  17. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20121:05 pm 

    I don't think the students have anything to do with that situation, and I'm sure other people are the same way. I've never heard someone say that the students enabled that situation.

  18. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20121:09 pm 

    I will again reiterate that I simply stated two truthful accounts of interactions with her. As a blogger and internet personality, people have said things about me and that's fine. It comes with the territory. I'm sure Lindsay Lohan hates me. This story has made national headlines so when I was asked if I had an opinion about it since I went to school at Alabama, I said yes. And I wrote about it. I never said that she was a bad person, I just explained my experience with her.

  19. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20121:09 pm 

    I'm sure there are issues, which is why everyone is hoping she can get some help.

  20. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20121:11 pm 

    Sarah, I'm glad you brought that up because I have written about those things before. Feel free to pick through my archive.

  21. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20122:16 pm 

    I actually have pointed out several times that I hope she comes through this. If prayer works for you Lynsey, that's wonderful. However, it's not something that I personally am comfortable with.

  22. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20122:16 pm 

    Thanks for reading!

  23. Sarah says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 20128:54 pm 

    Im from the south and I might think its rude if some snobby girl doesn't smile back at me, but I'm not about to write an article about it because it just sounds childish. The basic principle of the article is fine (to point out that not all sorority girls are like Kristin) but the way its written sounds pathetic and elementary. This is probably, a any publicity is better than no publicity situation.

  24. Teddy Roosevelt says:
    Mon, 16th Jul 201211:41 pm 

    Dear Lord. You’re an actual graduate of Alabama? WTF? How did you pass freshman comp?

  25. Constructive critic says:
    Tue, 17th Jul 201212:57 am 

    If you are aspiring to become a “professional blogger” or any type of halfway credible writer, you need to learn to support your argument with facts. The point of this post is to persuade readers that there are “good,” “grounded” sorority girls at UA, no?

    Then avoid petty mentions such as your Kristen-Saban Halloween store encounter and second-hand gossip overheard in rush workshop, and reference the positive contributions made by greeks at UA (i.e. Tornado relief funds).

    Just a suggestion.

  26. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Tue, 17th Jul 201212:15 pm 

    Dear Teddy Roosevelt,

    Your attempt at insulting my knowledge of grammar and the English language is just silly.

  27. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Tue, 17th Jul 201212:19 pm 

    I'm not aspiring. I hit that mark a long time ago. However, I will be writing a follow-up next week that will include lots of awesome and positive things that Greeks do. You guys asked for it, so I'm making it happen!

  28. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Tue, 17th Jul 201212:20 pm 

    As a writer though, it's my job to write articles. My editors asked if I had an opinion or thoughts on the story, which I did, and here we are.

  29. Teddy Roosevelt says:
    Tue, 17th Jul 20122:17 pm 

    Oh, yes. Your immense “knowledge” of grammar and the English language definitely comes across in sentences such as this: “I didn’t interact with her at all, but I did notice how snotty she was and definitely had a big chip on her shoulder.”

  30. kono says:
    Tue, 17th Jul 20126:38 pm 

    i applaud you for taking so much shit! so heres a compliment.

  31. horselover says:
    Wed, 18th Jul 201212:59 pm 

    Seriously? Leave your personal insults out and state the facts…. Who cares what your opinion of her is. Frankly, you sound a little jealous. And, like many comments above, you do a diservice to your sorority with this post and intimating that somehow you personally know she has issues. If you "don't care about her," then why on earth do you think she would waste her time getting to know you?

  32. sue says:
    Wed, 18th Jul 20123:20 pm 

    Who is the "We" you keep referring to in this post and why do you think that you should have been notified when she was kicked out of Phi Mu? Is that SOP @ Alabama? Do they send out an e-mail blast when a girl is kicked out of a sorority? ____By your own admission, you sound a little "snotty", too. You didn't talk to her in the Halloween store because "you didn't care." So instead you gave her one of your sticky sweet Southern Sorority fake smiles because mama taught you, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" (maybe mama should have taught you to find it in your heart to say something nice?). And then you probably went back to your house and told everyone about the encounter (the "we" you keep referring to, perhaps?) and they all nodded in agreement with you and murmured, "bless her heart." Am I right? Maybe Kristen isn't the problem. Maybe she's a product of her environment???

  33. Allison says:
    Wed, 18th Jul 20126:34 pm 

    You an IDIOT she was not kicked out of the sorority, neither was Sarah. She was overwhelmed with her best friends death along with two other close friends death in the floowing months. She left on good terms. They are not suing for $10,000 they are suing for $400,000 get your FACTS straight. This BLOG is an embarrassment to the Univeristy of Alabama. Get a LIFE!!!!!!!!

  34. Allison says:
    Wed, 18th Jul 20126:37 pm 

    EXACTLY TEDDY! Caitlin your are a cyber-bully. COWARD hiding behind your keyboard!!! "She didn't smile at me" WOW is all I can say. What a sad sad life you have.

  35. Kaitlin says:
    Wed, 18th Jul 20126:43 pm 

    You are an insecure bitch. Does it make you feel better about yourself to write articles like this about someone you DO NOT KNOW. This makes me sick. YOU ARE THE EMBARRASSMENT. That is the biggest load of BULLSHIT I have ever heard saying you wish her the best. You are a CYBER BULLY hiding behind your little keyboard hurting others for NO REASON. You make me SICK!!

  36. Kaitlin says:
    Wed, 18th Jul 20129:25 pm 

    You are pathetic Caitlin. I can't believe what I am reading here.

  37. Kaitlin says:
    Wed, 18th Jul 20129:26 pm 

    Caitlin, all this article does is make you seem incredibly insecure and jealous.

  38. Anon says:
    Thu, 19th Jul 20126:08 am 

    Coach Saban may be a stellar coach like Paterno was. But he best not get too comfortable. Kristen strikes me as a Hanibal Lector type. If her criminal behavior continues, it may be the downfall of Bama football. It will take years for Penn State to recover from the criminals that ruined that program.

    Apparently "sisterhood" is not all that it is cracked up to be. Who sends another "sister" to the hospital. All over being butt hurt over some dude who didn't pay enough attention to her. Dudes are a dime a dozen.
    A saying in frats is "Bros before Hos". How about "Chics before Dicks" for the sororities.

  39. john says:
    Fri, 20th Jul 20121:16 am 

    you are so fucking pathetic. i bet that none of the "encounters" you claimed to have had are true. you're just a jealous bitch like the rest of the bitches out there.

  40. Franklin says:
    Fri, 20th Jul 20125:42 pm 

    Her One Direction article is even better. I counted five elementary-level errors in the first paragraph alone. But I'm just being "silly," right?

  41. Amy says:
    Sat, 21st Jul 20125:29 pm 

    Just because the events you wrote about were true doesn't automatically discount the article from being attention-seeking. I was just struck by how the article overwhelmed the reader with a few less-than-stellar encounters you had/heard about. What happened with Kristen happened, but it's hard to define a whole girl by those few pieces of information.

  42. Disgusted Reader says:
    Mon, 23rd Jul 20122:43 pm 

    Seriously, could the author be any more nasty and low-rent sounding than this? This article sounds like someone who is probably jealous, not all that popular herself, and maybe a little disappointed that Kristen Saban didn't take much of an interest in her. Wow…this is why it took me about two months to drop out of my sorority at Alabama, "sisters" like this are certainly not anyone I want to be in a house with. Also….there is a little something called "facts" sweetie, maybe you may want to check yours.

  43. Nah Cho says:
    Tue, 24th Jul 20121:36 am 

    Hello. This is not an attack on your personal nature or whatever, but please do take into account that not all people who don't smile back think they're better than you. I am one of those people that are constantly in a mind bubble and get slightly surprised or taken aback when someone smiles or waves at me, even if I'm friends with them. There are times when I can seem snobbish and rude because I am uncomfortable in the environment and unobservant when it comes to noticing if someone wants to talk to me. And maybe that's not the same case for her, but it could be. You never know.

    You don't know what is going on in her life, and don't try to. And yes, you were right, it's (probably) not her parent's fault (ultimately), and there is no excuse for hurting another human being as bad as she did (unless for self defense, which was probably not the case). But this piece does sound gossipy and kind of bitchy.

  44. Sara says:
    Wed, 25th Jul 201212:04 am 

    The article wasn't "I'm hurt this girl didn't smile at me", this article was painting the image of the girl that she had personal contact with. And to be fair no one ever said these articles would be as bland and proper as something on the Huffington Post, this is CollegeCandy and that kind of writing is not only expected it's welcomed.

  45. bamagrad says:
    Sat, 4th Aug 201211:12 am 

    I could not agree more!! I was thinking "what an awful and painful post to read" — and I think she is just jealous and mad that she couldn't be one of Kristen's friends and that Kristen had no interest in being her friend.

  46. Brittany says:
    Sun, 5th Aug 20121:06 pm 

    What happened to the follow-up that painted Greeks in a positive light? You responded to "haters" but you never gave them the article you promised :-/

  47. Caitlin-University of Alabama says:
    Sun, 5th Aug 20125:12 pm 

    I decided to wait until closer to recruitment for timing purposes, but there is one on the way!

  48. Howl Yes says:
    Fri, 10th Aug 20121:41 pm 

    I'm willing to bet that 90% of these bitchy, spiteful comments nitpicking grammar and pretending to know the author's motivations were written by GDIs who've probably never talked to a sorority girl in their life.

  49. Nick says:
    Tue, 8th Jan 201311:12 am 

    Alabamas Greek life has a huge problem. If kids aren’t dying from overdoses than they are graduating as full-blown drug addicts. I guess that’s what happens when you have to live in bumfuck Alabama for 4 years. Geaux Tigers.

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