Casual Sex Is Not Immoral [Sexy Time]

July 19, 2012 9:30 am     Posted in Homepage Exclusive, Relationships, Sex  Jasmine R. g+ page


By Jasmine R.

It never fails – whenever I, or any other sex columnist, writes about casual sex, we get comments from people who chastise us for being dirty, immoral skanks. While it’s not something that I take to heart, it does start to grate after awhile. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to abstain from casual sex for a variety of reasons, but to suggest that talking about it or engaging it in constitutes some flagrant violation of morality is narrow-minded and extremely regressive.

Everyone creates their own personal code of conduct that identifies things we accept and things we do not. People do a lot of things that don’t sit well with me – confuse your/you’re, get sloppily intoxicated, wear sunglasses at night, listen to Nicki Minaj…but just because I disagree with them doesn’t make them wrong. The same principle applies to casual sex/sex outside of marriage. The act of fornicating with someone else is not intrinsically good or bad. It is a natural act that has acquired a ton of baggage via thousands of years of human intolerance. Some people disapprove of casual sex because they think having sex without an emotional bond is wrong — what they really mean is that it is wrong for them. I personally couldn’t do no strings attached sex because I do need to feel some sort of connection to the person I’m sleeping with, but that’s merely a subjective preference that I hold.  Some people criticize casual sex for being risky, but so is driving, going to the beach, and leaving your house. Ultimately, The only sex life that should be of concern to you is yours. It really has no bearing on your existence if other people are having abundant amounts of sex, as long as they’re not trying to force you into it and violate any of your boundaries.

The thing about living in the world is that you’re going to be confronted with all kinds of philosophies and actions that conflict with your own personal worldview, but that doesn’t make it appropriate to demean and degrade the people who disagree with you. Insinuating that people who enjoy casual sex lack morals is a really reckless accusation to make. Being promiscuous is not indicative of some sort of moral black hole. Everyone holds different conceptualizations of what sex means to them, and it is not right to expect other people to hold the same exact perspective as you do.

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11 Comments on "Casual Sex Is Not Immoral [Sexy Time]"

  1. Sam - Emory University says:
    Thu, 19th Jul 201212:54 pm 

    Amen to that, having your own opinion is important, but it's even more important to accept that others WILL disagree with you.

  2. Molly - UNL says:
    Thu, 19th Jul 20122:06 pm 

    "People do a lot of things that don’t sit well with me – confuse your/you’re, get sloppily intoxicated, wear sunglasses at night, listen to Nicki Minaj…but just because I disagree with them doesn’t make them wrong." This is the best sentence in the entire article and you are SO RIGHT and hilarious without being snarky. Teach me your ways.

  3. so tired says:
    Thu, 19th Jul 20124:38 pm 

    I get that people will disagree and I also understand that some people are more conservative than others but that gives no one the right to judge others based on actions that have nothing to do with them. i mean free will exists and those that judge you exercise theirs so why cant you exercise yours?

  4. Maggie says:
    Thu, 19th Jul 201211:09 pm 

    This is possibly one of the best written opinions on this subject- simply thank you!

  5. prozrachnzont says:
    Mon, 23rd Jul 20125:43 am 

    You should only listen to yourself and your own intuition. Then you'll do right things. What is good for other people may be inappropriate for you.

  6. waithira says:
    Tue, 24th Jul 20122:15 am 

    Deep down you know it is wrong, thus your desire to vindicate yourself here. There is something about human beings that makes us want to defend our actions, and the more guilty we feel, the more the effort to justify our choice (thus the saying, he/she doth protest too much!). I believe that our spirit does that.
    If you truly think it means nothing, it would be so obvious to you, you wouldn't feel the need to defend your position. But no! it bugs you, coz u know, and i know, and we all know,casual sex is not right. For example, for me, taking a bath daily is neither wrong nor right. I don't feel the need to defend myself for making that choice.

  7. GEA says:
    Mon, 30th Jul 201210:01 pm 

    BS, fornication is immoral but everyone does things that are immoral. If you decide the benefit outweigh the immorality in your code of ethics go ahead. Another point if one acts like a slut she is a slut if she is okay with it fine but a slut is a slut.

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