Tuffy Luv Settles the Score

August 7, 2012 3:00 pm     Posted in Advice, Homepage Exclusive, Reality  Tuffy Luv g+ page


By Tuffy Luv

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I want you to settle something for me and my friend. She’s upset with me because she says I’m hard to make plans with. She wants to make plans a week in advance just to go have dinner. I’m more spontaneous and I don’t like to make plans until right before they happen. Because what if something comes up? I also like to have my alone time which she says is rude if I choose watching TV over hanging with her.

So who’s right?

ME

Dear ME,

Well, you’re both wrong. So poo on you. Here’s why she’s wrong:

You’re your own person. You get to make your own schedule. Your friend wants to control how you decide to spend your time? Too bad. She can control how she spends her own and maybe a pet’s and that’s about it.

Here’s why you’re wrong:

You’re being totally inconsiderate. If you want to be friends with someone, you have to make plans ahead of time to show you respect THEIR time. You dig? Otherwise, it’s like you’re saying you only want to hang out with them when it’s convenient for you. And that’s screwed as floop.

So, like, compromise. Set hang out times a maximum of 4 days and a minimum of 2 days ahead of time. Everyone wins. Unless you two don’t really care about each other that much and would prefer to just argue and never see each other. In which case, like, whatever.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv

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3 Comments on "Tuffy Luv Settles the Score"

  1. ReeseUKanna says:
    Tue, 7th Aug 20127:01 pm 

    I hate people that can't make plans ahead of time. It's really immature to be a flake, and you'll never have any loyal friends if you can't be loyal to them and their time. I'm not saying you can't cancel plans if a real emergency happens, but deciding you feel like vegging on the couch 2 hours before you were supposed to be somewhere is just rude.

  2. Danielle says:
    Tue, 7th Aug 20128:30 pm 

    I feel like most of my friends are pretty flakey and I have ended a lot of friendships over it. I also hate when people aren't willing to ever make plans and expect you to do all the work.

  3. VetGirl says:
    Fri, 10th Aug 201210:39 pm 

    "Because what if something comes up?" – So inconsiderate. If you have plans and a better alternative comes up, too bad, you have plans. It's not fair to someone to make them wait till the last minute and then decide that 'well, I've nothing better to do so sure we can hang out'.
    If something legitimately important comes up, then you reneg on the plans because you have an emergency and a friend will understand that. It's not that hard.

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