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Kissing After Oral: Yay or Nay? [He Said/She Said]

Would you be grossed out if a hook-up kissed you after going ‘downtown’? Or would you be seriously offended if a guy rejected a post-bj make out session? Oral sex protocol is a seriously opinion-dividing topic, and I totally get why. A lot of guys just don’t like the idea of going mouth to mouth with someone whose lips have just touched their junk, the same way loads of girls don’t want to get a taste of their own downstairs area. On the flip side, it can feel like a pretty big rejection when a guy turns away from a sweet kiss after you’ve given him the blow job business. It’s just personal preference, which makes dealing with it a bit of a gray area.

If you’re in a long-term relationship with the guy, it makes sense to just compromise. If he politely asks you to please rinse your mouth out after going down on him, or goes as far as asking you to brush your teeth, why not just do it? It’s not THAT much hassle and you know it’s nothing personal. (But seriously guys, it’s not a big deal, it isn’t ‘gay’ or gross, you can’t taste it, and it’s fine. Calm down and just kiss your girlfriend.) The same applies if you’re the one with the make out issue – just tactfully explain that kissing straight afterwards makes you uncomfortable, and lay down exactly what you’d like, whether you’re okay with just a quick mouth rinse or want to wait for a few hours (seriously relax, there are no such things as cooties, just do it!). Even if you agree to kissing as a no-go zone, you can still snuggle and enjoy a good post sexy time nap.

But if you haven’t worked out exactly what the situation is, tread carefully. Some guys will really get freaked out if you go in for the kiss, so why not just ask? It may sound a bit awkward, but it’s better than risking the guy ewww-ing at your advances.

Honestly, I think everyone needs to relax and just accept a quick swig of water as acceptable pre-kissing protocol. But when it comes down to it, sexual preferences are personal. Be respectful, and everyone’ll be happy.

But what do you guys think of kissing after oral sex? Leave a comment below and click here to see what He Says!

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    1. ory says:

      I said yay

    2. Jessica says:

      I've done it in the spur of the moment and honestly wasnt even thinking about it. I didnt taste anything different and there wasnt any awkward pause, we just went for it and it awesome

    3. da9012 says:

      I say YAY lol !!! I have and it wasn't anyting bad about it at all. We I did try it we were experimenting with whipped cream, chocolate, and lots of other things as well so, making out afterwards wasn't a problem!!! I would tell people to go for it.

    4. elizzz says:

      Usually my bf makes me rinse, but sometimes he gets so into the moment that he forgets. Then he remembers and rinses his own. As for when he goes down on me, I don't mind kissing.

    5. Jay says:

      If it's "too gross" for you to kiss her after her lips have been on your penis, maybe it's too gross for her lips to have been there at all. Same goes the other way, if she doesn't want to kiss me after I have gone down on her, maybe I'd pass the next time.

      1. enkidu says:

        Very nice and reasnable comment.

    6. Miranda says:

      If a guy refuses to kiss me after I've given him a bj, that is literally the end of our sexual relationship. I've never had a guy comment on it, though.

      My logic is that if you expect me to put my mouth on it, you should be fine with putting your mouth on it, too (although indirectly). I personally don't enjoy kissing a guy after he's gone down on me, but I still do it because I hold myself to the same standard as I hold him. If my vag is good enough for his mouth, it's good enough for my mouth, too. Plus, I can't get any "germs" from myself, anyway.

    7. Rachel says:

      If anyone has a reason to be skeeved out by kissing after oral, it's the girl who's receiving. I don't mind it at all, after all it's your own damn vagina, but you usually can taste it. After a bj? Not so much. I don't think I'd continue giving blow jobs to someone who refused to kiss me afterwards. I just had your dick in my mouth. Show the decency of giving me a little loving and appreciation afterwards.

    8. arbatt says:

      I remember the first time my significant other wanted to kiss me after i gave him a BJ, i questioned him about it but he said "it's my dick, i don't care"… so that was that!

    9. Audie says:

      Even if you agree to kissing as a no-go zone, you can still snuggle and enjoy a good post sexy time nap.

    10. Scott says:

      If two people are intimate enough to give oral to each other they should be intimate enough to kiss each afterwards. Total deal breaker for me if not so.

    11. Amy M says:

      WHY is this even a topic of discussion? It's so juvenile! Your mouth is far dirtier than your genitals. If I had sex with a man who refused to kiss me after going down on me I would consider him a poor lover. If you are going to have sex with someone it then let go of the "ewwww, gross!" and go at it!

      1. Jay says:

        Amen Amy!!

      2. sam says:

        It's great that you feel comfortable with it Amy, but not everybody is and that should be fine too. Nobody said it's because of hygiene reasons.

      3. jessi says:

        Exactly. This has nothing to do with not being a clean person. I also understand people have different preferences. But, damn. When I have sex, I want it to be with someone that is comfortable with me to go with the flow. "Eww, gross," is not going with the flow.

      4. Jax says:

        Amen…I'm wondering if someone like that is even capable of clearing their minds enough to get into things.

    12. Older Guy says:

      Never bothered me, even when my wife took it to the next level one night on the beach when she did not swallow before kissing me.

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    14. Chris says:

      I never refuse a kiss after receiving a BJ, and I will slowly work my way up her body after I've gone down on her. The effect is that I don't go straight to the mouth after being "down there.". I personally don't have an issue with any of it, but have found that I can 'rinse' my mouth & tongue by visiting other spots on the way to her mouth.

    15. 7inches&rising says:

      As a dude I say by the time your blowin me were already past any jr high bs like this…a real man wouldn't even think of this in the first place…my mouth has been in far "dirtier" places (happily of course) and seriously nothing about sex between adults adults should be "icky"…pussies

    16. SoFLRider says:

      The author began with "Would you be grossed out if a hook-up kissed you after going ‘downtown’? Or would you be seriously offended if a guy rejected a post-bj make out session?" The terms "hook up" and "a guy" don't indicate relationship. You're all indicating with my spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend, not a hookup, at least what that term means to me and my group of friends and peers.

    17. Another Older Guy says:

      I'll not only kiss, I just love to go down on her before AND after we've had unprotected sex. (we're monogamous)

    18. Reuben says:

      On the flip side, it can feel like a pretty big rejection when a guy turns away from a sweet kiss after you’ve given him the blow job business. It’s just personal preference, which makes dealing with it a bit of a gray area.

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    20. divya says:

      if in a i month relationship a guy ask for a kiss is he serious ao jst .. using u

    21. Mayasex says:

      I broke up with my lover because he turned his lips away from me after I gave him a candy coated BJ I was so hurt I dropped him immediately

    22. Mayasex says:

      Ladies when a man turns away from you after you’ve given him a known incredible BJ guess what he’s not that into you find some one who is

    23. no hair says:

      This has been an issue at our house for ever with my wife. I was the main one to give oral sex. I enjoy it between her legs almost as much as I do intercourse. After a love session down there I wanted a kiss but she would always turn away. I soon stopped going down and she was upset that I didn't want to make love any longer. I explained to her that if she couldn't at least kiss me after words then I guess oral wasn't a necessary thing. She very soon changed her way and got into kissing after oral. I glad because I like them both.

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