Escaping the Friend Zone [Diary of the Undateable]
I have the hugest crush on this guy that I work with. He’s so cute, so smart, so funny…so sexy. Whenever I know that he’ll be in the office, I switch my shift so that I can be around him. It’s not like I’m stalking him…but.
Mark is probably oblivious to my feelings, especially since I don’t put them out there like that. One Monday, we were talking about something random when he complimented me on how “cool” I am.
“You’re so funny!” he told me. “I’m really starting to look at you like a little sister.”
Yikes. I’m not trying to be his sister. Because if that were the case, my feelings for him are definitely incestuous. Mark threw me into the friendzone!
Guys always talk about the dreaded friendzone when their intentions are romantic and the girl doesn’t necessarily reciprocate them. Maybe she doesn’t realize that he wants “more than just…” or maybe she just doesn’t want that. But either way it goes, it sucks. Something that guys have told me directly is that they’re just as insecure about feelings as we are (i.e. any Drake song). They’re afraid of rejection, humiliation and being vulnerable. One FZ is liable to ruin your whole dating life!
I don’t want to lose Mark’s friendship, because he’s genuinely a good guy. Even if things don’t work out the way I want them to, I still want to talk to him. However, the consequences are age-old and evergreen…you tell a friend you like them, you go for it, it doesn’t work out and all of your other friends (or coworkers in my hypothetical case) suffer.
But on the other hand, things could work out swimmingly. Mark and I could end up falling for each other, and it wouldn’t be weird or awkward because we were friends first. That’s how the best relationships start.
CollegeCandy ladies and gents, help me out here. How do I finagle my way out of the friendzone?
When she’s not watching for Blue Ivy sightings or doing some serious Facebook creeping, Khalea moonlights as a print journalism major at the REAL HU, Howard University. Follow her on Twitter at @letsbeKHAlear, or feel free to Twatch. Whatever works for you.
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