I Want a Boyfriend [Friday Faves]

“My Boyfriend” is a phrase many of us single ladies would like to add to our vocabulary.

Some of us are the Charlottes who are happy knowing at the end of the day there is a guy that will be thinking about us before we fall asleep. Some of us are the Samanthas who are happy knowing we have a guy we can shag before we fall asleep. Ahh, and then there are those in between-ers like myself. We want someone to love and shag us before we tuck in for the night.

Whichever category you fall into, it’s no wonder we’re all looking for that special person to “complete” us.

Having a boyfriend brings about a sense of pride and accomplishment. It gives us all feelings of worth, self esteem and validation. Oh, and a serious case of the butterflies.

As sad as that may be, it’s the truth. Sure, the powerful and independent woman can find all of that on her own, but the fact is we’ve been taught our whole lives to want a boyfriend. Case in point: romantic movies. Those friggin’ things don’t do jack sh!t for a single girl besides motivate those starry-eyed expectations of how the majority of real guys act. Homegirl, I’m not talkin’ only about movies along the lines of “The Notebook” either. Those Disney Princess movies of carpet rides and glass slippers laced our childhood hopes of boyfriends with metaphorical crack before we got our training wheels off.

So yes, I want a boyfriend! You want a boyfriend! Your dog wants a boyfriend!

And there is nothing wrong with that. It is normal to want to have someone to talk to at the end of the day and to remind you how amazing you are. Someone who is going to give you bear hugs, forehead kisses, and be an olympic gold-medalist cuddler. It’s a part of the human moral fiber.

So for those cynical singles who won’t admit at the end of the day that they truly do want “that special person,” stick that in your juice box and suck it! Claiming you don’t want one may make you feel better about the fact that you don’t have one, but I truly feel that everyone deep down wants a boyfriend.


This post was written by Cristina – Michigan State University

[Lead image via conrado/Shuterstock]



    1. Carrie says:

      How does having a boyfriend bring about a sense of pride and accomplishment? Feelings of worth, self esteem and validation I get, seriously. And I say the as someone who has NEVER dated or had a boyfriend. I wound not mind having a boyfriend, but not having one is not the end of the world (my friends however, they feel differently).

    2. Lauren says:

      You know what else will bring you a sense of pride and accomplishment? Getting a college education, having a job you love, hobbies you enjoy, activities that bring you pleasure, a cause you support…having a boyfriend should not be a defining factor that makes up who you are.

      1. Akilah says:

        Cristina did not say that. In fact it says (on the bottom) that she goes to a university and she never said that you should depend on a boyfriend just that deep down you want a boyfriend.

    3. glitter in the air says:

      all of the things you've mentioned above about sense of pride and accomplishment are things that you should feel about yourself not what a boy makes you feel. you know I was the girl who thought having a boyfriend was the cure all end all to all the insecurities i felt about myself but i had a rude awakening. All the things you feel are "missing" once you get a boyfriend those things are still there yet now there in your relationship and they only get bigger. so the truth is be happy with yourself then one day someone else will not make you happy but add to your happiness:)

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