Tuffy Luv Hates Your Friend
October 16, 2012 3:00 pm Posted in Dating
Dear Tuffy Luv,
I’ve had a friend since 6th grade who drives everybody crazy. She’s very judgmental and annoying to be around, and she doesn’t ever think the problem is her. She was one of my closest friends, but everyone else in our group has dropped her. We’re all in college now and none of them feel like they have to take her shit anymore. She can be really nice one minute and then really nasty the next. She is always complaining to me that no one wants to hang out with her. I can barely stand to be around her, but I know she had a really bad home life growing up (her father is emotionally abusive) so I still take her hour-long phone calls and answer her emails.
Recently, though, I was home for a weekend and I went to a party. She showed up and was following me around all night. I was trying to be nice, but when I started talking to this guy she started flipping out. She said he was trying to get with me and that I was drunk and she tried to make me call a cab, and when I said no she literally called my mother up in the middle of the night and yelled drunkenly about the situation. My mother was so upset. I couldn’t even believe she would do that.
She totally crossed a line with that. My friends all say it’s time to drop her and I agree, but she doesn’t think she did anything wrong. Should I tell her what’s up? I don’t want a big confrontation. Or should I give her another chance if she apologizes?
Well, I seriously doubt she’s going to apologize, so I don’t think you have to worry about that. But if she does, floop her. She deserves to be alone. What kind of horrible psycho phlegm bag does this to the only friend who’s still willing to even speak to her? She’s alone for a reason. Because she deserves it.
You earn friends by being a good friend. This person was jealous and spiteful. That is not a friend at all. Drop her. Don’t bother explaining; if she doesn’t get it now, she’s not going to get it ever. Stop talking to her. Cut that toxic shoop right the crap out of your life.
Your poor mother. What thehell, man.
Anyway, I hate your friend and I bet you do too. It sounds like most people do. I’m sorry for her difficult upbringing, but she’s not a child anymore and it certainly doesn’t give her the right to hurt other people. Don’t answer her phone calls. Don’t answer her emails. Don’t answer her texts. Let her sorryash actions be the start of a new herless chapter that was long overdue.
But don’t spread rumors. It’s not worth the bad karma. Just get out of her life and stay out. And never ever let her back into yours.
Hearts & Skulls,
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