Taking on a Little Positive Thinking [Confessions of a Twenty-Something]
Do you guys ever have those days? Those days where just nothing seems to be going your way? You woke up late, spilled coffee on your new blouse, got stuck in traffic and yelled at by your boss, only to come home later that night to finish a term paper. It’s just a bad day. After a day, week or month like that there is no way to get out of that negative funk that has you drowning and gasping for air. Sometimes it is nearly impossible to have a positive attitude when nothing seems to be going right and it feels like the universe is doing everything in its power to make you miserable. As the bad starts to pile up, it’s hard to dig through all the crap to find the good. Though it’s so much easier to be a Negative Nancy about life, being positive will help you out so much more though it may take a little more effort to get there. I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times, but a positive attitude goes a long way. It’s true!
I have finally graduated college after 5 and a half years, and I could not be more happy to finally be done with school, but what now? I have spent one day at home — while everyone else was getting a job and going to school, I ate hummus and watched Teen Mom 2 reruns — and I felt like a loser. But instead of going online and starting to look for jobs or volunteer opportunities, I just decided to take a nap and feel like an even bigger loser. I thought if I hide under the covers in the dark at 2 PM on a Monday, maybe the feelings of failure and lethargy would go away. Why was I doing this to myself? I just couldn’t get out of this negative thinking slump. I wanted to be positive and help myself get what I wanted, but how was I supposed to help myself when all I could think about were the negative aspects of my life?
I needed a change. I knew nothing was going to go my way until I changed my way of thinking.
Now, anytime I feel like I’m about to give myself some negative self-talk, I try to mirror that thought with positive self-talk. Anytime I start to think, “What if I never get a job?”, I then say to myself, “What if I do get a job in the next month?” It’s part of my daily life now to make sure that I do not let the negativity bring me down. Sometimes my anxious thoughts and feelings hinder my ability to do what I really want—to get what I really want. If I really want a full time job, there is no way that I am going to make that happen if I keep up with this negative thinking. If I think I’m going to be an unemployed bum forever, I will be an unemployed bum forever.
And I don’t want to be an unemployed bum. That doesn’t sound like much fun.
I need to believe in myself and in my ability to be the best kind of person I can be. I need to believe in my dreams and believe they’re attainable as well. I need to believe that there’s someone for me to love out there and that I won’t die alone in a shack with 12 cats. I need to know that even though my life is a little tattered and shaky right now, everything is going to be okay. The coffee-spilling, boss-yelling bad days will still irk me and bring me down a couple notches, but that isn’t worth the loss of my positive attitude. So lock down that negativity as much as you can, and I promise that things will start to look up for you. And that’s something I’m positive about.
Katie is finishing up her undergrad at North Central College in Naperville, Illinois. She enjoys wasting hours on Facebook and tweeting things no one cares about. When asked the question, “Do you do marathons?” She promptly responds, “Of course! Which show?” Follow her @KatieGarrity! Or read her personal blog where she talks incessantly about Ryan Gosling and hummus here!