New York is filled with millions of people. Eight million to be more specific. And it’s true that among so many people, it’s easy to feel alone here. No matter how many friends and acquaintances you have, it can be a very lonely place. But there’s a big difference between feeling lonely and having alone time.
I’m someone who loves to be around people. I like having friends over, I like to go do things with company, and I’m rarely alone for the majority of my day. I’m not the kind of person who could work at home by myself every day. I need some sort of human interaction, which I think is a totally healthy thing to realize.
That being said however, sometimes I can get really overwhelmed with people. I have anxiety, which can be highly amplified when I’m uncomfortable or in a new place. To say that moving to New York was tough on me would be a serious understatement. Combine a new place with a huge density of people, and I can become a hermit in a split second.
I generally make an effort to not become an agoraphobe, so I venture out when possible. Like this morning I went out and got a bagel, which isn’t a big deal really. It was one of those things where I could have gotten delivery, but I didn’t because I live in New York and dammit I should walk to get a bagel down the street.
I do recognize though when I’m getting overwhelmed and changes occur that I need to spend some time by myself. So this week I decided to do something touristy. I spent several hours at The Met alone looking at art and sculptures and taking in all of the awesomeness it had to offer. And although there were so many people there, I felt like I was alone and at ease. It was really lovely, and I have to go back because it’s impossible to see everything there in one day.
As I was walking around the city, I thought about how it’s okay to not want to meet up with people or see anyone. It’s okay to decompress and take some time to yourself when you need it. That doesn’t mean you don’t want to spend time with your friends, but every now and again you need to spend some quality time with just you.
Caitlin is a graduate of the University of Alabama who has an obsession with cupcakes, coffee, and Harry Potter. She always has random fun facts and is now living and adventuring in New York City. Follow her fabulous life @caitlincorsetti. You’re welcome!