Proposing is Still a “Man’s Job”? [Sex in the News]

Women may be making great strides to level the playing field in terms of education, income and climbing the corporate ladder, but there’s still one game that they’re falling behind in. And this my friends, is the proposal game.

Yes, despite growing income equality and men taking a more active role in raising the kids, everyone would still prefer it if (in heterosexual relationships) that men continue to ask for their partner’s hand in marriage. A study of 277 heterosexual college students at UC Santa Cruz found that not a single person would prefer a women proposing. Seriously. Not a single person male or female.

Turns out even super liberal college students are more than old-fashioned when it comes to marriage. Two-thirds of the students surveyed said they “definitely” would want the male partner to get down on one knee. Only 2.8 percent of the female students surveyed said they “kind of” wanted to do the proposing.

Women continue to wait around for a proposal just like in the good old days…you know, when “gentlemen callers” came to seek the approval of your father and you’d eventually move from your parent’s house to your hubby’s house. And things aren’t improving much after marriage, although 60 percent of women were at least “somewhat willing” to take on their husband’s last name, 64 percent of men were “very unwilling” or “somewhat unwilling” to adopt their wife’s name.

So there you have it, friends. One giant leap forward, one false start.

Would you consider proposing to a guy? Would you want your husband to take on your name?

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    1. Apz says:

      My mother loves telling the story of how she proposed to my father. It went sort of like this:
      *Sitting on the sofa*
      Her – "You wanna marry me?"
      Him – "Yeah okay"
      That was pretty much it and they're still together after 23 years. I think the whole idea of proposing, being engaged and getting married has too much pressure attached to it, i.e. having the 'perfect' scene when proposing, having the 'perfect' wedding. Its no wonder divorce rates are sky high with all this stress around what is normal for relationships. Then again if there wasn't so much pressure around it some of our favourite movies wouldn't be made, like the "Wedding Planner" or "Father of the Bride"!!

    2. […] •Better forget all that crap you learned about being progressive, because apparently proposing is still just a man’s job. (College Candy) […]

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