Let People Surprise You [Chronicles Of The City]
I love surprises. Well, the good kind at least. I think they are just so fun and happy, and everyone deserves to be surprised in life. There are a lot of variants of surprises, like parties, presents, etcetera. But the best ones are people. I’ve been constantly surprised by people, and I think that’s great. It’s a fantastic reminder that people are evolving creatures and can indeed change.
People come in and out of our lives, that’s just a fact. Sometimes friendships and relationships fall apart, which really sucks. All of that happens for a reason though, even if it isn’t clear at the time. I really believe in people and their ability to change and grow. I think it’s important to do that unless it negatively affects you. My mom always tells me I find friends that are like little wounded birds, which can be concerning to a parent, but those have ended up as my best friendships because I let them surprise me.
A friend from home surprised me recently. We hadn’t talked in a long time (nearly six years?) and I had this idea in my head of who he was based on stories from other people. He had gained a reputation of being kind of a jerk and an egomaniac, so I was a little hesitant to reconnect. But I like to give chances because I would want someone to do the same for me. Well, I have been so pleasantly surprised because everything I had heard has been proven false. This person has surprised me by being an incredibly nice and wonderful re-addition to my life. And it makes me feel like a jerk that I was worried about what everyone else’s opinion was. The opinions that matter in life are our own. You and you alone make your decisions based on how you feel about things.
As much as we say we don’t judge, we definitely do. It’s one of our worse qualities as human beings. We judge others so harshly, and then get offended when others judge us. It’s stupid, really. I try quite hard not to judge, but it’s human nature. We all do it. And if you say you don’t, you sit on a throne of lies.
It can be difficult not to get wrapped into what someone’s reputation is. Or a first impression from a while back. I think it’s tough for us to change our views on someone once we’ve made up our mind about them. But I want you to challenge yourself. Make your own calls. If you think someone can change or has changed, then you do you. If you’re wrong, you’ll find out. It isn’t up to anyone else to make decisions and run your life for you. It’s okay if your gut feeling isn’t right. Sometimes that happens, but that’s not a bad thing. It means you’re a person.
Make some mistakes and learn stuff. Let people surprise you. Let life surprise you. Having no idea what’s going to happen is half the fun.
Caitlin is a graduate of the University of Alabama who has an obsession with cupcakes, coffee, and Harry Potter. She always has random fun facts and is now living and adventuring in New York City. Follow her fabulous life @caitlincorsetti. You’re welcome!