Why Does Sex Always Hurt Me? [Ask Tuffy Luv]
Tuffy Luv here. I just wanted to say, thanks for letting me into your lives this year, and I hope we can continue to be friends or whatever. And this year, girls, this year — let’s all be the most awesome, kindest, smartest, coolest, best people we can be. Deal? Happy New Year and shoop.
And now back to your regularly scheduled column…
Dear Tuffy Luv,
I don’t know what is wrong with me, but I think my vagina is too tight/small. Although I have been having sex for almost a year, it is still often painful afterwards (if not during), and it snaps back to it’s original state. It’s not him either. At most I can only fit two fingers, and even that hurts a lot of the time. I’ve never been able to insert anything into it, be it tampon (I have to use those icky pads) or medication without it being painful or just being to scared to do it.
Itty Bitty Painful Vagina
Dear Itty Bitty Painful Vagina,
Girl, I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but you need to go to a doctor.
Chances are, you just need some warming up. It sounds like it’s causing you a lot of anxiety, which is probably making the situation even tighter (yuk yuk wakka wakka). So try using lube. And try doing more foreplay, and make sure it’s stuff that actually turns you on.
However, you really DO need to get it checked out, because it’s possible you just need a little medical intervention. You could have a naturally small vagina (this really happens! And doctors can help), you could have an infection, you could have vaginismus, it could be some kind of inflammation — it could be anything. Aunt Tuffy is a lot of things, but she ain’t a doctor. So in CASE (just in case!!) it’s something scary or harmful, you MUST MUST MUST go to your OB/GYN.
Okay, girl?! Promise me!!! NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION: Better sex, better health, better life.
Hearts & Skulls,
Ask Tuffy Luv: tuffyluvcc [at] gmail [dot] com