What Exactly Is Safe Sex? [He Said/She Said]

By Ellen Scott

So CC’s lovely editor Alex was browsing Reddit this week and came across this post, with a guy asking if it was unreasonable to ask his girlfriend of four years to give him a blow job without a condom. My initial thoughts? That must taste weird, very latex-y and possibly like spermicide. I honestly didn’t know people did this, but I guess it makes sense. Some STDs can be transfered via oral sex, so using condom is very safe idea, but exactly how safe do people keep sex these days?

If you imagine you’re about to go skateboarding for the first time you put on a helmet, right? Do you put on kneepads and elbowpads too? Do you keep all that gear on for your entire skating career? Obviously the more protection you use (by that I mean using protection for every sexual act, NOT using multiple condoms, which is a very very bad idea) the safer you are, but at what point are you allowed to relax a little?

I’ll be honest, I’m pretty paranoid when it comes to sex, it’s so risky. That’s honestly why I’ve never had a one night stand, I’m too scared that I’ll go home with a guy and he’ll turn out to be a crazy axe murderer. So for me, having sex with someone already means I trust them in some respect. But trusting someone with your sexual health is a tricky one. Just because you get regular check ups doesn’t mean he does, and it would really suck catching something just because of someone else’s lack of responsibility. Maybe until you truly, 100% trust someone, the condoms should stay on for everything. Maybe they should stay on until you’ve both had all your STD tests done.

If a guy ever pressures you to do stuff without a condom, I definitely think you should pressure them to take an STD test. If they won’t do it, or you don’t trust them enough to believe they’ve already come back clean, walk away. No matter how great sex is, it’s not worth potentially getting very sick.

When do you think the condoms should come off? How safe do you keep your sex life? Leave a comment below and click here to see what He Said!

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