What Beyoncé Has Taught Me About Love [Diary of the Undateable]

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Dear everyone: leave Beyoncé ALONE. Ever since her National Anthem performance, people have been coming at her relentlessly. While I don’t know (or care) if she lip synced, I DO know how much of an impact she’s had on me since her days of blonde cornrows and belly rings. So yes, I’m a proud member of the Beyhive – her nickname for her loyal fans. But I don’t love Beyoncé because of the obvious reasons – her beauty and her brilliance. Beyoncé represents a lot of the qualities that I’m working on improving – a cool sort of confidence in all endeavors that isn’t marred haters or by the piranha-like press.

Since it’s too cold to go out, most of my spare time is spent doing homework and listening to music. Bey’s been the soundtrack for studying all week. In between grooving to “Roc” and holding back tears to “Resentment,” I realized yet ANOTHER thing Beyoncé slays at – the topic of love.

Keep your standards sky-high

We all have or have met a bug-a-boo. And sure, we’ve probably indulged in the attention that comes with it. But the Imperial Sweet Honeybee Texan Diva told us that we don’t have to talk to every single guy who wants to talk to us…no matter how much he’s stunting.

Love is contingent on YOUR time, not theirs

Remember the dark days before Blue Ivy? Everyone was wondering when BK would settle down, retire and raise a child. Though she seems oblivious to the snarky media, I’m sure that all of the questions and hovering was a lot of pressure. Bey got married when she wanted to and had a child when she wanted to. She didn’t let anyone make the decision for her.

Always make room for your friends

My relationships with my closest girlfriends are so important to me. Besides Siri, who else can serve as a drinking partner, study buddy, personal stylist, chef and psychiatrist rolled into one? Bey’s maintained her relationship with her besties – I’m talking Kelly, Michelle, Gwen – and preserved her career and Jaylationship flawlessly. If she can do it, there’s no reason that I can’t.

Bey confident

I’ve probably watched the YouTube clip of the ’09 MTV Music Video Awards hundreds of times. Mrs. Knowles-Carter was performing “Single Ladies.” And the song had gotten old by then, but the way that she rose from beneath the stage – hand on hip, smize on 10 – stayed with me since then. And she hadn’t even sang a note. If I could be that confident in EVERYTHING that I do, including dealing with these dudes, I’d be a lucky person.

Find someone to accept you flaws and all

Nobody’s perfect. Not even Beyoncé. I’ve heard way too many stories about girls scrambling to look and act certain ways to please their men. I’m not oblivious to the fact that looks matter. But if I found someone who cared more about my energy and innermost thoughts versus anything else…I’d keep him.

CollegeCandy ladies…has Beyoncé taught you anything about love?

When she’s not watching for Blue Ivy sightings or doing some serious Facebook creeping, Khalea moonlights as a print journalism major at the REAL HU, Howard University. Follow her on Twitter at @letsbeKHAlear, or feel free to Twatch. Whatever works for you.

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