I Knew It! Study Shows Sex With A Condom Is As Good As Condomless Sex [Sexy Time]

I love condoms. Sometimes I feel alone in this, because a lot of people who commit to using condoms regularly always seem to do so with reluctance and resignation. I, on the other hand, am always thrilled to purchase and use them. Neither I, nor my partner, find them uncomfortable and I don’t believe our sex life suffers from using them. There was a study that indicates condoms are not an impediment to having pleasurable sex. Amen, I feel vindicated.

I don’t doubt that condoms can be very uncomfortable for a myriad of reasons – allergies and an improper fit chief among them. Not all condoms are created equal, and the differences are more than just “regular” and “magnum” sized. Then you have to decide whether you want thin, her pleasure, with spermicide, ribbed, extra lubricated, etc. Condoms are a lot like jeans – there is no one style that fits all and it’s almost criminal how difficult it can be to find the perfect fit. In my perfect world, condoms would be totally free of charge or deeply discounted so there would be no financial disincentive to experiment and  find the ones that are most comfortable.

In my humble opinion, condoms that are compatible with both partners’ bodies are a total non-issue during sex. They shouldn’t bunch up or feel hard, cause itching or break. Nor do they interfere with intimacy. It only takes a few seconds to put one on (hello, anticipation buildup) and in the throes of the act, you shouldn’t even notice it. The only mildly disgusting thing I associate with them is the process of cleaning off lube after the fact. There’s no wet spot to be concerned about, and even though I’m in a monogamous relationship, I still like knowing that I’m protected against most STDs.

While there are plenty of valid reasons to forgo condoms, they don’t deserve the negative reputation they have for being sex-ruiners. With the right kind, condoms should not be a hindrance to a good time.  They’re especially amazing if you’re into casual/non-exclusive sex, you want a tangible form of birth control, or if you only want to use contraceptives when you’re sexually active instead of continuously. Let’s stop demonizing condoms and focus on the real enemies of good sex, like selfish partners and roommates who refuse to vacate the premises.

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  1. Kesmi says:

    Just one small point, how would a woman know?
    I mean, how would you like to have sex and be unable to feel a thing, nothing?
    And here's the worst part, guess what happens to an errection when you can't feel anything …..

    Just a different perspective

  2. Sam says:

    The article linked to doesn't say that there is no difference. It says that there isn't "much" of a difference, which is ambiguous at best. More importantly, the study was funded by a company that makes condoms, so it clearly had a stake in the outcome.

    The fact is that, for most men, pleasure is reduced by wearing a condom. Yes, finding one that fits better helps, as does using the right lubricant and using it in the right places. But in the end, there is still a barrier there. A reduction of pleasure is a reduction of pleasure, and since we don't have scientifically objective scales of how pleasurable a feeling is, that's really all that can be realistically said.

    Far be it from me to advocate unsafe sex: unless you are in a committed relationship, and you both have been tested, and you are using (assuming you don't want babies) another form of birth control, use a damned condom. But let's not pretend that it feels the same for men, because it doesn't. At all.

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