You A Virgin? There’s An App For That *Eyeroll*
There’s a new “Virgin App,” you guys. Hurray. /Sarcasm. “Our app is tailored for teens and young adults who choose to remain abstinent. Whether you’re waiting for marriage or simply until you are old enough to make an adult decision, we want to help.”
I am not making fun of people who choose to wait to have sex. Just like the app says, “It’s your life! It’s your choice!” Perhaps if you are waiting, you may find the pressure to have sex inescapable so maybe an app like this actually can help you. Fine, I will accept that. My problem with the app is its underlying attitude toward sex which is obviously that abstinence is not just an option in regard to one’s sex life but the right option. I think many of us know by now that abstinence only sex education just doesn’t work. Teenagers will have sex if they want to and it’s better that they know about contraceptives and the responsibility of having a sexual partner instead of being shamed or scared into trying to hold onto their virginities as long as possible when all they really want is to bone Harry Styles.
The app cost $.99, which I guess is the price you have to pay to be a virgin. Never mind the fact that virginity is an archaic idea that was invented to oppress women and make people ashamed of their bodies. When you have sex, you “lose” your virginity. When you have sex someone “takes” your virginity. The idea that you lose a part of yourself (the innocent, pure, holy part of yourself) when you have sex is absurd. Having sex does not make you a different person unless you psychosomatically believe you are a different person but you can convince yourself you’re a cat these days if you are so inclined.
Let’s get to this app’s features. The app has an ‘Educate Yourself’ section. According to the site, “It’ll educate you in areas such as relationships, friendships, STIs and much more.” Yes, I am sure it will tell you that if you have sex, you will get chlamydia and die. The video section contains “Abstinence PSAs and inspirational videos” that will surely brainwash you. The inspirational stories feature is so that you can, “Share your stories about overcoming obstacles or just your strength with others. This section is meant to bring people together to let them know that they aren’t alone in their daily battles.” Now you can brainwash strangers on the internet too!
Look, I know what you’re thinking, the app is about abstinence so they’re supposed to be promoting abstinence. The app is supposed to be helping young people decide when they should have sex as they claim in their education section, “No one else can tell you when you’re ready to have sex, and this section might help you make your final decision.“ How can they make an educated decision when they only have some of the facts? Instead of being pressured into having sex, they’re being pressured into not having sex and pressure coming from anywhere just isn’t helpful. While I think the intentions are good because they want to help young people who would otherwise choose to be celibate if there wasn’t peer pressure, it would be fundamentally more useful to provide more balanced information. I suppose it isn’t called “The Virgin App” for nothing.