SeekingArrangement is a website where young women sign up to find wealthy sugar daddies. The website is upfront about this, there’s no bullshit. You sign up and you date a man solely for the purpose of him giving you money. The thing is, he is signing up for this too. There’s no mystery, no deception, it’s basically a business arrangement.
The CEO of SeekingArrangement, Brandon Wade, came up with a theory that a lot of young women used the website to pay for college. He tested his theory by surveying college students to see if they would ever become sugar babies.
“CEO Brandon Wade says that female students account for 44 percent of the site’s so-called “sugar babies”—a classed-up euphemism for “gold digger”—who receive an average of $3,000 a month from their sugar daddies. Wade says that since the site launched in 2006, the number of female students signing up has grown exponentially, a trend that he links to the economic downturn and rising tuition costs. “
At Arizona State University more than 60 percent of students said they could see themselves having a sugar daddy while at Columbia 47 percent would and at NYU 63 percent said they would. The average sugar daddy on SeekingArrangement is 39 years old and the average sugar baby is 27.
While I don’t judge people who decide to be sugar babes (or gold diggers) as long as they are upfront about it with their sugar daddy, it is worth discussing the kind of ideas about women these kinds of relationships uphold.
The Daily Beast notes, “Desperate women, desperate for cash is a large part of the fantasy for the sugar daddy. The key to the fetish is that the women aren’t whores but ingénues, with the very real possibility that their love is for sale. But that doesn’t make it any less pathetic.”
I don’t think there is anything wrong with being a sugar baby, stripper or sex worker to pay for college (or as your livelihood) but I think if you’re going to participate in that kind of culture, you should at least be aware of the damsel in distress/knight in shining armor, women are weak/men are strong, women are trophies/men are breadwinners stereotypes you’re propagating. However, if both parties know what they’re in for, they both know that this idea is a complete fantasy and farce otherwise it wouldn’t be a service you pay for.
What do you think? I think every girl has pondered if she could be the type that only seeks a partner for money. I don’t think it’s for me. I’m not about that life.
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