I’m getting ready for college. And I was wondering if there was more of a selection there. I mean I’m a big girl, but I’m not grossly fat or anything, in fact I play basketball. What I’m trying to get at is, do guys like big girls? I am looking for a relationship and I want a really good looking guy — I don’t want to settle. So can you help me find the answer, Dude?
Nothin’ But Net
Dear Nothin’ But Net,
There are about three questions I can pick out of your write-in. Are there more selection of guys at college? Yup. Do guys like big girls? Some. Can I help you find a really good looking guy so that you don’t have to settle? That’s a bit complicated.
Firstly, yeah, there’s tons more selection of guys and gals when you move out of HS into secondary education. You’ll meet a ton of different people from different parts of the country with different upbringings and grooming habits and hairstyles and all that good stuff. There’s no fear of finding less selection, except in ultra rare circumstances.
Some guys love big girls. There are some who don’t. Oftentimes it matters less the more you get to know someone. Looks matter at first but they don’t always matter the same way. You can be beautiful to someone no matter your size. Some have a big girl preference while for others it can border on a fetish. Then again, there are guys out there who won’t give a big girl a chance and those are the guys you wouldn’t want to give a chance anyway.
Finally, what’s a good looking guy to you? Does he have to be tall? Do you mean George Clooney or Matt Smith? I’m a little unclear as to what your criteria actually is. I mean, if it all starts with finding a guy attractive then what turns you on? Are you just interested in what he looks like or are you attracted to, you know, who he is as a person? These are the questions I ponder and ask you to consider. Here’s something I can say for sure, confidence is sexy. If you’re not confident in who you are, in your size, in what you’ve got to bring to the table then you’re not going to be happy with whomever you attract.
Get it, got it, good?
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