Women often regret having sex with the wrong partner, while men often regret not having more sexual partners according to a study at the University of Texas and University of California-Los Angeles. The conclusions were drawn from three studies that surveyed 25,000 people.
The studied wanted to prove that men and women have evolved to have certain feelings about their sexual relationships over time. The trouble with evolutionary science is that it is not empirically based thus, there is no hard evidence to support any of it’s notions) and therefore is just speculation or rationalizations about what usually are cultural practices. I find it hard to believe that men and women innately feel regret or the need to pursue more partners so much as they feel social pressures that are based on gender. Of course women regret having sex more, women get slut shamed for any little thing; from childhood to adulthood we’re taught that our virginities are “special” and that sleeping around is wrong. Men are taught to think of wives as the “old ball and chain,” and to see monogamy as restrictive and the end of “fun.”
“For men throughout evolutionary history, every missed opportunity to have sex with a new partner is potentially a missed reproduce opportunity – a costly loss from an evolutionary perspective,” said Martie Haselton, a UCLA social psychology professor who worked on the study.
The trouble with evolutionary science is that it often wants us to believe that misogynistic practices are inherent to the human race when they are probably just cultural practices that were useful for organizing humankind at the beginning of civilization and have been latched onto for far too long. Women used to stay at home and men used to go to work, now those roles are switched sometimes and surprise society hasn’t regressed and somehow people have managed to change.
“The consequences of casual sex were so much higher for women than for men, and this is likely to have shaped emotional reactions to sexual liaisons even today,” Haselton said in a statement. What exactly were those “consequences”? Haselton doesn’t say. They were probably social consequences (oog-oog-cave-man-slut-shaming-oog) as I’d imagine women’s bodies didn’t dissolve into magma from having casual sex during the times of “cave” men and women.
I am not doubting that men and women feel this way but I think it’s more useful to address the real issue of why we feel this way which is cultural behavior and behavior can always be modified. There is hardly anything unique to brains or bodies of women that make them wish they were more chaste. Trust me, I know plenty of sluts who are just fine and don’t regret a damn thing
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