Why Are Ladies More Into Same-Sex Experimenting Than Dudes Are? [Sexy Time]

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Girl-on-girl experimentation has apparently been on the rise in the UK as of late (the most recent US study I could find yielded similar conclusions). I’m sure. Doing a quick mental scan of the women I know, I can think of several who identify as straight but have had sexual experiences with other women – anything from kissing to oral. In general, it seems more acceptable for women to be highly flirtatious with each other (remember when everyone was Facebook married to their BFF/roomie?) or at the very least, express casual attraction to other women.

I think part of the reason why it’s cool for straight girls to be more fluid is because, well, a lot of guys are okay with it. It wouldn’t be a post about young women experimenting if it didn’t mention Katy Perry, and I mean, it’s a lot easier to identify as a straight girl who’s okay hooking up with girls when you have some societal positive reinforcement. Despite the fact that I’ve never had an experience with a girl, I will entertain the thought via dirty talk with the boyfriend. In real life, I’m more ambivalent about inviting someone else into the bedroom, but in hypersexualized fantasy life, I’m all about having a threesome with another girl. Not only does it seem like a safer and less taxing choice to do that than it is to have to deal with two penises, but I’m also playing into my boyfriend’s utterly cliche interest in me doing something vaguely taboo for his pleasure.

Of course, however, being alluring for men isn’t the only reason girls experiment. Sincere attraction to someone in their life is probably the most common reason anyone would choose to hook up. I highly doubt men never find their friends or acquaintances sexually attractive, but don’t act on it perhaps because masculinity is more rigid than femininity. Any hint of male homosexuality is often considered a threat to masculinity, whereas femininity doesn’t have that same boundary.

If there still wasn’t so much baggage, stigma, and oppression towards homosexuality, I’m pretty convinced more people of all genders would be more open to hooking up with whoever without it being seen as some life-altering thing. Navigating and exploring your sexual orientation  shouldn’t be fraught with as much anxiety, guilt, and insecurity as it often is.  Making out or having sex with someone doesn’t really define who you are as a person at all, and in an ideal world, we’d all be free to pursue whoever we want without feeling weighed down with societal expectations of how sexuality is supposed to work.

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