Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, you’ve seen at least one of Beyonce’s new videos from her self-titled visual album. With my jaw to the floor, the only thing I could think of was how sickening her body was. I reconsidered my sexual orientation about a million times throughout viewing her surprise album. It was safe to say my body image was at an all-time low while watching Beyonce’s curves. By the end of the album I had come to the realization that I would never be as shapely as Bey. The key to revealing that “Yonce” confidence is to be the best version of yourself.
In a track entitled “Flawless” Beyonce creates a new anthem for the woman who is in love with herself. “You wake up, flawless. Post up, flawless.” Say that Beyonce! “My man made me feel so God damn fine!” Funny you say that Bey…
Sabina Vatter, conductor of a relationship study at Tallinn University in Estonia says there is a direct relationship between a woman’s body image and the satisfaction she receives from her relationship.
“When a woman was satisfied with her relationship, she was also satisfied with her body weight, which also applies vice versa,” Vatter said.
Psychiatrist Dr. Gaby Cora agrees with Vatter’s stance on relationships and body image.
“If you do feel pretty good about yourself and pretty secure about who you are and what’s important to you, it may be easy to make relationships with people who admire you for who you are rather than who you’d like to be,” says Dr. Cora.
A study such as this makes you wonder which came first. Are women in these healthy relationships because they reeked of body confidence, thus attracting their significant others and further positive affirmations? Or was the validation of their partners the thing that allowed the women to feel comfortable in their own skin?
Regardless of the answer, all women should be able to love their bodies as-is, whether you’re in a relationship or single as hell.
Finding Your Outfit
As I said above, I will never be as shapely as some of the bodies I admire, so I would never dare wear anything Kim K or Beyonce would wear. Finding your outfit means accentuating your best features and playing up what makes you sexy. Take the time to see what you receive the most compliments in and work around that.
There has to be one song that makes you feel like you can listen to it for hours on end. Turn up the volume and belt your heart out. Once you have your blood pumping, it’ll be easy to embody that badass mentality once you’re strutting your stuff–even if it is just to go grocery shopping.
Birds of a Feather…
We’ve all heard the phrase “Birds of a feather, flock together.” When you assess who your friends are it should be a direct reflection to the type of person you are. Having friends who are motivated and confident will rub off on you in the best way. Steer clear from those who are likely to break you down, that’s not friendship.
Whenever I eat well, I feel amazing. Eat fruits, drink tons of water and stay away from heavy foods. Don’t feel the need to starve yourself. This becomes more difficult while you’re on campus because the convenience of fast food makes it easy to cave in. When you portion your food properly, you will have a burst of energy, you won’t be hungry and most importantly the results will show!
Affirmations are an important part of self-esteem. The key word in self-esteem, is self. You don’t have to wait for people to give you compliments, do it for them! Write down all the things you love within yourself and remind yourself daily that you are enough.
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