Rachel Canning, a private high school senior from Morris County, New Jersey, who is eighteen years old, thus a legal adult, is suing her parents because she wants them to pay for her college tuition. The only education promised to you by law ends after high school, you can be sure this girl is entitled if she thinks it’s her parent’s responsibility to pay for her college education.
Rachel claims that she was “kicked out” of her parents house, while her parents claimed Rachel left of her own avail. Either way, it literally doesn’t matter because she is a legal adult now and her parents are no longer legally responsible for her. While it’s not a nice thing that turning a certain age means parents can absolve themselves of any responsibility of their children it’s the grand ole’ truth. Not to mention her parents seem to want their daughter back.
“We love our child and miss her. This is terrible. It’s killing me and my wife. We have a child we want home. We’re not draconian and now we’re getting hauled into court. She’s demanding that we pay her bills but she doesn’t want to live at home and she’s saying ‘I don’t want to live under your rules,” Rachel’s father Sean Canning said.
The fact that this teenage girl is taking legal action is a sign of her privileged existence. Rachel doesn’t want to live by her “parents’ rules,” and I have to say she really isn’t using her noodle and if she carried on this way in my parent’s household she would have been whooped on the back of the head with a slipper. Girl, you need to think straight.
“We’re heartbroken, but what do you do when a child says ‘I don’t want your rules but I want everything under the sun and you to pay for it?’ ” Canning said. Exactly, you can’t say, “I want nothing to do with you, mom and dad, but give me your money!” That’s just irrational.
“John Inglesino, the father of the Rachel’s best friend, is funding the lawsuit. He told the outlet that he wants to make sure the teen is able to attend the university of her choice.” Another sign of this girl’s privilege is that she is clearly surrounded by other privileged people who can just pay for random girl’s lawsuits.
If you expect your parents to finance your life and put a roof over your head then you actually do have to abide by their rules, especially when you’re 18 or older. Look, if this girl’s parents are telling her to live a straight life when she is a really a lesbian, or denying her gender, or making her study art history when she’s into science, or whatever numerous and vast things parents try to make us do against our will because they think they know what’s best, then I do have some empathy for her. As it turns out her parents don’t approve of her boyfriend.
“The father contended that Rachel moved out because she didn’t want to abide by simple household rules — be respectful, keep a curfew, return ‘borrowed’ items to her two sisters, manage a few chores, and reconsider or end her relationship with a boyfriend the parents believe is a bad influence.”
In high school when your parents don’t want you to date someone that can be VERY DRAMATIC but seriously, calm the fuck down. Still, at the end of the day parents aren’t obligated to pay tens of thousands of dollars for your college tuition or lifestyle, even if they can afford it. It is not a parent’s job to sponsor your bad decisions or even what they falsely perceive to be bad decisions.
College is a privilege not a right. Respecting the boundaries (if they aren’t abusive) of the people who raise and financially support you actually isn’t too much to ask, especially when you’ll be going away to college in a few months and it won’t even matter.
Update: Rachel Canning has lost the case against her parents. Check out my follow up post here.
[Via. Daily Record]