To all of you second semester seniors out there, crunch time is now! And no, I’m not talking about exams or relishing your last weeks on campus. Rather, I’m telling you it’s time enter the rat race that is finding a job after college. If you haven’t already landed a job by this time or have plans for grad school, you’re probably already having “omigod, what am I doing with my life?!” thoughts race through your head. This is only the tip of the iceberg. It will only get worse.
While you’re still in school, there’s a protective bubble around you. But right after graduation, when you find yourself on your parents couch, it will sink in even further. The stress will come; it will suck, but you’ll live through it. Just be prepared and know what kinds of stress to look out for, which will help you cope.
1. Supportive Parent Stress: It’s great that your parents want to help you and you’ll appreciate them for being awesome in your time of need. Butttt there can be a layer of guilt there. You want to make them proud, you want to be on your own but you can’t. And that sucks, and grates at you slowly.
2. Judging Parent Stress: Sometimes your parents can be on the opposite end of the spectrum and are looking at you like, “Bitch please. What did I send you to college for? TO GET A JOB.” Sure, they love you but there’s a tough love component that once you flew the coop for college, your sole responsibility was to make yourself employable and you’re failing at that. They want the best for you and they’re hoping their sass will light a fire under your butt.
3. Stranger Stress: “Oh, so you just graduated? That’s great do you have a job?” NO, lady at Whole Foods, I don’t have a job STEP OFF, YOU DON’T KNOW ME, YOU DON’T KNOW MY LIFE.
4. Facebook Stress: All of your sudden your feed will be filled with statuses like, “So excited to start my first day on the job!” “Training for my big girl job was great!” “New work friends!” Basically, Facebook is there to make you feel worse about your life. Take a break from it.
5. Actual Friend Stress: You want to be happy for your friends when they get a job but there’s definitely a component of jealousy. And when they get jobs, that just makes you feel like “Well, if he/she can do it, why can’t I?” It especially sucks when you know that they’re more of a mess than you’ve ever been. Also, your friends feel like it’s okay to ask about your job search. They mean well but they should also know that it’s the last thing you’d ever want to talk about. But unlike everyone else you can tell them to shut up because they are your friends.
6. Application Stress: Some of these jobs ask soooo many questions. Like do you really need to make me take a million and one personality tests to work a cash register? It’s a shock they don’t ask for you blood type.
7. Job Interview Stress: If you are interviewing for things but not getting them, I feel for you. Job interviews are basically the worst kind of date ever–you go, look your best, sell your best qualities and still don’t get the call back. It’s even worse when you’re trying for jobs that you feel over-qualified for.
8. Media Stress: Don’t go read all those depressing news stories about graduates/anybody not being able to find a job. Or those stories about the most profitable majors. You’ll just be depressed when looking at the statistics. Just close your eyes, plug your ears, and keep it movin’.
You will probably freak out and cry more in the month after you graduate than you have in your whole life. It is OK. Just know that everyone else is stressed to but you can’t let it ruin your life. No one wants to be that girl. Stay strong, stay fierce, and you’ll work it out.
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