If we asked you to estimate how many text messages you send in a week, what would you say? What about in a day, or in an hour? Now that you realize how much you actually use it, we think it’s safe to say that text messaging is the most common form of communication today.
Overtime, texting has created an entirely new chapter in the book of dating, love and sex. This new chapter is incorporated with a lengthy list of rules and guidelines that you must follow to keep your love interest equally as interested in you. If you’re in college and you are “seeing” someone (take that word however you wish, all rules still apply), the tempo of your texting conversations can either make or break the relationship.
Don’t believe us? How many times have you contemplated over how long you should wait to answer a guy, or whether or not you should add an extra exclamation point or period to a response? Sounds crazy when you see it in print, but we’ve all unfortunately been there.
If you’ve ever been consistently talking with/texting a guy and all of a sudden he just stops answering, don’t let your girlfriends fool you by telling you he probably doesn’t have his phone, doesn’t like to text, or doesn’t check his messages a lot, because he does. We’re here to tell you that when most guys stop answering you all together, they have a reason.
It could be one, it could be all — but here are 7 reasons why he stopped texting you.
1. You were too available to respond
Like anyone else, men like a chase. If they can send you a message and you always respond within seconds, they honestly just get bored. In order to avoid this, just keep busy. Don’t be on your phone 24/7 waiting for his response and keep your phone away at work. Better yet, find a fucking hobby or something.
2. You texted him too often
Even if he enjoyed talking to you a lot at first, no one likes one hundred texts per minute. Have you ever scrolled up and looked at your conversation? If it’s all blue and hardly gray, there’s something wrong.
3. You said too much
Take texting for what it is—sure, we use it a lot, but if he asks “what’s up,” he doesn’t give a shit about what you ate for breakfast, what your plans are for the day or anything along those lines. Most of the time, if a guy is reaching out to you and says something like, “hey,” “what’s up,” or “how are you,” it’s just a conversation starter. Keep the conversation going if you want to talk to him, but don’t write a novel. Only tell him what he’s asked.
4. He’s heard that you/has seen you text other guys
Ever met a texting slut? We all have that friend, and they’re the absolute worst. What’s the point of texting fifty guys at once, all day every day? Plain and simple, a man won’t want to talk to you if you’re talking to a bunch of other guys. Even if you’re not sleeping with these other guys and you’re just texting them, take a moment to put yourself in his shoes. Would you want to be with a guy who is constantly on his phone texting someone else?
5. He’s talking to another girl
If he has started to see someone else and she notices you two texting, even if it’s friendly, like most women she will put an end to it really quickly. That’s honestly not a bad thing for you though, because nobody wants to be the girl on the other end of the phone when he’s actually sitting with someone else.
6. He’s not ready for commitment of ANY kind, even if it’s just consistent conversation
In our opinion, especially if you are looking for some form of commitment, this is a big fucking red flag. And it’s waving in your face. If he’s busy at work or something, fine. But if he’s too “busy” to respond to a text within 24 hours, there are plenty of men out there who aren’t. Or, even better, there are men out there who are super busy—and they still respond, because they want to talk to you. Imagine that!
7. He’s just lost interest
Sadly, this reason goes along the same lines as the ever-so popular phrase, “he’s just not that into you.” Don’t try to make it something it’s not, and don’t make us explain it to you what it means. It’s pretty straightforward!
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