You know you’ve seen the statuses (or is it stati?) from friends that are SOOOO in love with their significant other. Doesn’t a part of you always wonder, if they are sooo in love why are they broadcasting it everywhere? Perhaps it’s the cynic in me, but that’s what I think. I mean obviously, I’m not talking about those every once in a while couples that are doing a great job of not being obnoxious on social media, I’m talking about the ones that call their boyfriend “hubby” and they’re not even engaged.
Well a new study by Albright College in Pennsylvania shows that their Facebook doting might not be because their significant other is perfect but because they are high in Relationship Contingent Self-Esteem – a type of low self-esteem centered on how your relationship is going. According to the study, people who are high in Relationship Contingent Self-Esteem are more inclined to post affectionate content, brag, acknowledge their partner as “the best boyfriend ever” and monitor their partner’s social media accounts more closely.
‘These results suggest that those high in RCSE feel a need to show others, their partners and perhaps themselves that their relationship is ‘OK’ and, thus, they are OK,’ said Albright assistant professor of psychology, Gwendolyn Seidman.
The study also suggests that introverts are more likely to show off on social media, where previous studies have shown it to be extroverts.
Personally, I’m a little relieved to find out that I’m vindicated in my cynicism. Now, it doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship isn’t great, it’s just people who need a little confidence boost with their partner. But, really, I knew not every boyfriend on my Facebook feed was “the best boyfriend ever.” That’s physically impossible.
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