Kim Kardashian has been through a lot these past few weeks, but the trauma of her Paris robbery has yet to resolve itself, and the public isn’t helping. Aside from having to deal with her presumable fear, the reality star now has to deal with being the butt of jokes. Instead of being given the time she needs to heal from her nightmare, she will inevitably have to publicly defend herself because the world has a hard time accepting women as victims.
After what happened in Paris, Kardashian should have been able to return home to unwavering sympathy and protection. Not because she’s a wife and mother, and not because she’s famous, but because she’s a human being.
Of course, this is the opposite of what happened. Since the news of Kardashian’s attack, the general public has shifted from shock and pity, to paranoia and slut-shaming, and it’s not fair. People are questioning her motives, her narrative and accusing her of being guilty until proven innocent. Despite leading media experts refuting the claims that this was all a publicity stunt, people still refuse to believe her.
Yes, she flaunts her wealth…
… but so what? It’s been a part of her brand since the beginning. The Kardashians are infamously famous for being famous, but that’s our fault, not theirs. She wouldn’t post photos of her ostentatious lifestyle if we didn’t eat it up every single time. This is a classic case of victim blaming and it seems to only happen to women.
When Amber Heard filed for divorce from Johnny Depp on account of domestic violence, she was accused of being a gold-digger. Despite donating the entirety of her $7 million settlement to charity, Heard was assumed to have caused the media uproar for the sake of boosting her own fame.
Earlier this year when Kehlani was cyber-bullied to the point of an attempted suicide, she was also accused of seeking attention, and by Chris Brown of all people. Her admittance to suffering from depression wasn’t enough for those, like Brown, who assumed that she did so in order to compensate for rumors that she had cheated on her boyfriend, Kyrie Irving.
Interestingly enough, back in 2009 when Brown assaulted Rihanna, the question “Well what did she do to deserve it?” floated around. The same thing happened this past August when he was arrested for allegedly pointing a gun a woman, Baylee Curran, who then labeled as a liar trying to take advantage of a celebrity.
A quick Twitter search on any of the above stories is now flooded with either support of said women or neutrality towards both parties, but every so often a victim-blaming tweet will appear. Generally speaking, the amount of blame placed on the woman decreases over time as more details are revealed to the public, but the fact that the stories are even questioned is the issue at hand. Had a man been the victim in any of these situations, it is difficult to deny that the narratives would have been drastically different.
When a heart-wrenching story breaks about a famous man in any sort of distress (Kid Cudi, for example) there is a collective of fans and supporters who back them without questioning the legitimacy of their pain. Women deserve the same. Regardless of what she wears, says, or does, no woman – famous, or not – should have their pain trivialized.