We all know that dating is difficult, but serious relationships can be just as hard. Unlike dating, we can’t just swipe left on our partner’s annoying habits. We’re left to navigate the ups-and-downs of our relationships on our own and it’s important that we make communication a priority.
Poor communication is often what leads to the downfall of many otherwise successful relationships. It can be easy to forget that our partners want the relationship to succeed as much as we do, and often we’re left feeling like the martyr in our relationship without remembering that nobody can read minds. As the cliche saying goes, communication is key.
By improving our communication skills within our daily interactions, we’re not only contributing to the longevity of our romantic relationships but to the quality of our friendships and beyond. Take a look at some of our communication tips to help your relationship be as healthy and happy as possible.
Put your phones down.
Make a point of turning your phones and tablets off during dinner. Set aside that time to talk about your day, gossip about coworkers, or discuss the underwhelming season finale of your favorite show. You’ll be surprised at the difference it will make to leave your phones off and have a face-to-face conversation.
Spell it out.
As awesome as it would be to have a partner who could know exactly what we were thinking, that’s unfortunately not the case in any relationship. If you’re upset with your partner or annoyed with something they’re doing, don’t wait for them to figure out what they did wrong. Explain to them why you feel the way that you do and understand that they might not have known what they were doing was hurtful or frustrating. No more passive aggressive comments and/or subtweeting, people.
Resolve conflict face-to-face.
Texting can be a blessing for anyone who considers themselves to be nonconfrontational. Unfortunately, texts can be easy to misinterpret. When you speak with someone in person you can rely on eye contact, body language and tone of voice to better understand what your partner is trying to say, and vice versa. If you send a risky or confrontational text instead of explaining how you feel in person, chances are your partner will misinterpret what you were trying to get across.
Make a point of asking them about their day.
This one seems obvious, we know. Nowadays, however, it’s easy to get caught up in our own hectic lives and to forget to acknowledge how our partners are feeling. Ask them about specific aspects of their job or daily activities so they feel more inclined to open up. Over time, you’ll both get used to being more open with one another and more comfortable sharing the sometimes difficult aspects of our day that we’re so accustomed to keeping to ourselves.
Don’t bottle it up.
Even something small can eventually nag you until you just can’t let it go anymore. If your partner does something that bothers you, don’t let it slide. Speak with them calmly and rationally and explain why you’re frustrated with their actions. If they don’t know that they’re bothering you, your partner will most likely continue to repeat their actions and the feelings inside you will just continue to grow until you have to let them out.