If you missed Monday’s episode of The Bachelor, then you missed a lot. Not only was the notoriously sexual Corinne Olympios finally sent home (whipped cream boobs, anyone?), but another contestant also revealed a shocker about her sex life. 25-year-old Raven Gates confessed to Nick Viall that she’s never had an orgasm.
Needless to say, her ex-boyfriend did not take it very well. To be honest, neither really did Viall.
The contestant from Arkansas explained to Viall that she had only been one man in her life, her ex-boyfriend Hunter Henry. Right before Gates and Viall headed into the Fantasy Suite, she mentioned that she had never told Henry “I love you”…and also that she had never had an orgasm during sex with him.
Viall was visibly uncomfortable, now that the implied expectations were set. He was blushing and awkward, making note that he had not expected to hear that. But even worse than Viall’s reaction to Gates’ confession was her ex’s reaction.
Henry spoke with Us Weekly on Thursday and claimed that what Gates was totally lying about their relationship. “Comments made by Raven about our relationship are skewed and untrue,” he claimed. “Definitely not true about the whole orgasm thing. And she has told me she loved me multiple times, just for the record.”
We’re not sure about the whole “I love you” deal, but if there’s one thing we know, it’s that fake orgasms are definitely a thing.
Here’s why: it’s not necessarily because a women’s partner is bad, though that is a likely case. Women can feel pressured to have an orgasm, so they pretend what their partner is doing actually feels better than it does. There’s also the situation where the sexual chemistry is non-existent and she just wants it to end. Either way, it’s a lot easier for women to fake orgasms and it happens more than you think it does, men.
To be fair, if she wasn’t experience pleasure from Henry, she should have spoken up about it. It can be difficult to do something like that, where you might hurt your partner’s feelings, but then you can work towards something where everyone can orgasm!
But if Raven Gates is claiming she’s never had an orgasm before, it’s likely she’s telling the truth. Sorry dude, but that doesn’t mean you’re a bad sexual partner. You were just a bad one for her.
[H/T: Refinery 29]