One of the best parts about sex is knowing you can please your partner. Whether or not you’re having a quickie or a long, passionate night, nothing completes the experience more than finishing it all off with a bang. However, a lot of us are guilty of faking “the big O.” Once you know how it feels, it’s so easy to fake it. When Harry Met Sally never felt so accurate. If you’ve never seen the movie, this scene is pure cinema gold.
Sometimes we’ve had a long day and we just want to get it over with. Maybe you don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings. Either way, you decide to fake an orgasm. Don’t worry, it’s a lot more common than you think. A study done by Dr. Ed revealed the facts and statistics on how often couples fake it in bed. Researchers surveyed over 2,000 men and women in the U.S. and Europe to give us all the juicy details.
Unsurprisingly, 68% of women admitted to faking an orgasm out of 2,000 participants. We’re just hardwired differently, I suppose. Not to mention some people just don’t give enough love to our more sensitive spots. Sex isn’t just about penetration and, contrary to popular belief, pleasing a woman isn’t rocket science. There’s touching and playing and dirty talk and so much more to it. Why keep it vanilla when you can go the whole nine yards?
According to the study, straight women were more likely to fake it more than bisexual or gay women. In fact, women who solely rely on vaginal penetration during sex might have a harder time climaxing compared to those who have other forms of stimulation. I can only assume that when it comes to bisexual and gay women, we understand our anatomy more intimately than most.
Although women admit to faking it the most, men aren’t excused. 27% of male participants reported faking an orgasm with their partner. Within those numbers, bisexual or gay respondents were more likely to fake an orgasm compared to straight males.
But wait. If we know how many people are faking it, how often are we actually finishing? Are real orgasms really as elusive as the study suggests? Well, the results are exactly as you’d expect. Men were almost five times more likely to orgasm every time.
Although 40% of lucky women reported that they were able to get off almost always, women were still 10 times more likely than men to say they rarely reached The Big O with their partner. There’s a huge gender expectation to always orgasm during sex, and just the thought of having to instead of wanting to is enough to kill my mood.
Unfortunately, every lie has to come clean eventually. Faking an orgasm is no exception. Have you ever told your partner that you faked it? Dr. Ed asked their participants how the reveal affected their relationship. The results were surprisingly refreshing, to say the least.
About 31% of women who faked an orgasm said that their partner decided to try harder after finding out. Those are the keepers, folks. Don’t be embarrassed if you can’t get your partner off, and don’t let your partner say it’s your fault you can’t orgasm.
Men took the news more personally than women when they found out that they weren’t meeting expectations during sex. 21% of men admitted they got into a fight after they learned their partner was faking it, and 15% of participants said the news caused a breakup! Harsh, much?
Sex can be incredibly satisfying, even without climaxing, but why stop there? While it’s certain that men can reach orgasm much easier than women, that’s no excuse to leave her hanging. Do some research and communicate with your partner. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed if you don’t know what you’re doing. Everyone has their sexual likes and dislikes.
Can you tell if your partner is faking it?