In a now-viral post, author Robbie Tripp posted his undying affection for his wife’s curves to Instagram last week, and as a result became the focus of a swelling of national media attention.
His Instagram, gushing about his appreciation of “thicker” bodies and his wife’s “beautiful stretch marks,” has amassed over 25,000 likes on Instagram as well as attracting the attention of more than one national media post lauding him for his post.
The problem? Well, for many women, it’s the fact that this is considered “news” at all, considering an attraction to one’s wife shouldn’t be alien. Many are also finding the tone of the post self-congratulatory and (unintentionally or not) propagating the notion that to find curvy women attractive is unheard of.
“As a teenager, I was often teased by my friends for my attraction to girls on the thicker side,” Tripp writes, “For me, there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc.”
|| I love this woman and her curvy body. As a teenager, I was often teased by my friends for my attraction to girls on the thicker side, ones who were shorter and curvier, girls that the average (basic) bro might refer to as "chubby" or even "fat." Then, as I became a man and started to educate myself on issues such as feminism and how the media marginalizes women by portraying a very narrow and very specific standard of beauty (thin, tall, lean) I realized how many men have bought into that lie. For me, there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc. Her shape and size won't be the one featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan but it's the one featured in my life and in my heart. There's nothing sexier to me than a woman who is both curvy and confident; this gorgeous girl I married fills out every inch of her jeans and is still the most beautiful one in the room. Guys, rethink what society has told you that you should desire. A real woman is not a porn star or a bikini mannequin or a movie character. She's real. She has beautiful stretch marks on her hips and cute little dimples on her booty. Girls, don't ever fool yourself by thinking you have to fit a certain mold to be loved and appreciated. There is a guy out there who is going to celebrate you for exactly who you are, someone who will love you like I love my Sarah. || photo cred: @kaileehjudd
At the end of the post he directs his attention towards “girls,” instructing them to find “a guy out there who is going to celebrate you for exactly who you are, someone who will love you like I love my Sarah.”
While the post is likely well-meaning, many users on Twitter are calling Tripp out for the public manner in which he told his wife he appreciates her as well as the implication that he somehow deserves applause for loving her.
“You are not revolutionary for liking thick women,” one user wrote on his Instagram.
“Yes, this is the sweetest thing I’ve read,” another wrote, close behind.
The above split reactions to the post seem representative of the responses to the post as a whole, which have been both overwhelmingly positive and mocking. While it is beautiful to love and appreciate bodies of all sizes, suggesting that in loving a curvy woman you are both an outlier and a hero for loving someone who you think of as unlovable is problematic for more reasons than one.