I’m a college sophomore girl and I seem to have a major problem with boys — I am CLUELESS when it comes to them! I just got out of a short relationship (actually my first one) and what it made me realize was I gravitate toward guys who express their interest in me FIRST because I feel unworthy of the guys that I have a crush on (like they’re too good for me or something along that line).

I stole my best friend’s boyfriend. I know it sounds bad but here’s the situation. She didn’t love him. They were just dating because he asked her out and she was too lazy to break up with him. She was always complaining that he wasn’t thoughtful enough or romantic enough and etc.

My roommate forced me to get an account on plentyoffish.com, where I actually met a really nice guy, Ryan. We started talking and I found out that we went to the same high school, and graduated the same year (coincidence!). We talked on Plenty of Fish for a few days and then I gave him my phone number (we did go to high school together, after all).

My boyfriend of 5 months broke up with me about 3 weeks ago after sitting me down and saying that he wasn’t ready to commit and that he felt as if he wanted to be alone. I didn’t agree with the breakup but I told him that I supported his decision. We decided to remain friends despite everything and I’m totally fine with that.

I’ve recently hit the 1-year mark in my relationship and everything is going great. Except for one key thing – the sex. It seems everytime I try to initiate anything with the boy I get shot down.

The problem lies in ones of the things my ex-bestie said to me during this final conversation. After basically listing all the things about me that she didn’t like, she also informed me that she didn’t like my boyfriend, John. When I asked why, she said it was because she “didn’t get him.”

I’m going back to college in the fall and I wanted to re-invent myself, still stay the same but have a total new outlook on life and a new attitude. Back as a freshman guys would make fun of me and torture me, and it was horrible. I wanted to go back in the fall as a new person, and have those guys who made fun of me not know what hit them.

Although it’s only the beginning of the school year, I think I’m in love. Okay, admittedly it was the Starbucks I drank today that gave me heart palpitations. But, it was this amazing blue-eyed dark-haired charismatic southern boy that has been making me swoon. The only problem is he is a senior and I am a first-year. I mean I really like this guy, but would this May-December ( Convocation-Commencement?) romance even be worth pursuing?

I had always told myself I would wait until marriage to sleep with a guy but I found myself so very much in love and couldn’t see myself ever being with anyone else so I gave in about 4.5 months into the relationship. We had our ups and downs, at the beginning of the relationship he got kicked out of his dad’s house and had to live with some friends.

But here’s the thing: this whole thing is my fault. The whole time we were together, practically, I didn’t trust anything he told me. I’ve had relationships in the past, and they all turned out terribly. I realize that everyone has terrible relationships sometimes, but it seems like everyone I care about lets me down. I don’t trust anyone.