Not only does college leave me stumped in my latest lecture, the daily grind leaves me scratching my head as well. Especially when it comes to my questionable relationships with men boys. Countless hours spent over-analyzing his latest text, the way he touched my arm in the bar, and how many days it took him to finally pitch me a Facebook message… It’s exhausting.
So who’s to blame for the late night ponderings?
Well, according to a recent article in the New York Times, it seems the culprit is me. Well, me as a lady, at least. Alex Williams, the author, argues that the real problem with dating in college comes from the fact that there are more girls on campus than guys and the reason men act the way they do in college is because (in most cases) there are less of them and they can get away with it. The article even suggests that, because of the the general laws of supply and demand, it is the women who have to assert themselves romantically or they will be left alone on Valentines Day to “stare down George Clooney movie over a half empty pizza box.” Um, ouch.
In a situation where women outnumber men, the article states, “men have all the power to control the intensity of sexual and romantic relationships.” Therefore, if they do not get what they are looking for with one woman, it is easy for them to move on to the next. A woman, however, doesn’t have that luxury since her pool of potential suitors is much smaller.
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