Every Most relationships start with one thing: Attraction. Attraction that often causes rose colored glasses and a delightful honeymoon phase. Eventually that initial intensity wears off and conflict arises between two people. It’s about this time that the real strength of a relationship is tested. Conflict between any two people is tough, but it is especially tough with someone you truly care about and have made yourself vulnerable to. So how do you handle conflict proactively in your relationship? YouTango takes to the issue to an expert. Get the full story here!

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Rember that scene from ‘The Sweetest Thing’ when Christina is dreaming about receiving oral sex every hour on the hour while eating mountains of ice cream void of any calories? Yeah, that’s pretty much paradise. It shouldn’t shock anyone to hear that girls enjoy oral sex just as much as guys. And you better believe girls will talk about any guy that’s really good (or really bad for that matter) under the sheets. I don’t think most girls would say oral sex is a deal breaker, but if a guy is good, it’s a definite bonus. And if he can take all the calories out of ice cream, he can marry me now.

Each woman’s body is different, and there is no Rosetta Stone of oral, but here are 4 pointers that shouldn’t offend too many ladies:

1. Tease her: Make your way down between her legs slowly. Kiss softly. Let her pantie line be the guide, and actually follow all the lines. Keep her panties on for a bit and kiss her on top of them. The warmth will give her chills and her anticipation will make her restless. You’ll feel her excitement when she has a hard time laying still. Wait til then to slide her panties off, but keep her wanting. Kiss all the same spots you just hit before the undies were gone.

2. Use your tongue: A slow build up is good, but merely kissing and breathing on our lady parts isn’t going to do much for us. Clitoral stimulation is just as important (for some ladies more important) as actual vaginal penetration. We don’t want anyone to be too rough, and super soft is a good as a teaser at first, but eventually there needs to be some pressure from your tongue. You’re doing the right thing if she’s clenching her thighs or thrusting her hips. Don’t be afraid to ask her for some direction. Faster? Softer? Harder? She’ll tell you.

3. And your fingers: you can stimulate her clitoris with your tongue while penetrating her with your fingers. This takes some coordination and rhythm, but I’m sure she won’t mind letting you practice for a while.

4. Be steady and consistent: if you keep sporadically jumping around and doing different things, it will be pretty difficult for her to get off. She needs a steady build up to climax. This doesn’t mean you should stick to one move the entire time. Make sure there’s a steady rhythm to whatever you’re doing and transition slowly to a new thing.

You should be able to tell when she’s close to finishing, and you can be sure she didn’t fake it if after the big moment, her vagina starts pulsing a bit. Let her just lay there for a good ten minutes, and I’m sure she’ll be more than willing to return the favor. And again, every girl is different, so ask her what she likes.

What do you think ladies? Give us your pointers below!

And don’t forget to see what He Said over at COEDMagazine.com

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Hey Dude,

So I’ve been hooking up with this guy for about two months. After about a month and a half he confronted me at a party that he needed more out of the relationship and wanted to “get to know me better.” For the next week things were great. Fast forward one week and I don’t hear from him at all. I text him a few times and don’t hear back. I asked him to talk and when he called me he got very defensive. He said that he was not a guy that will text me or call me during the week and then he couldn’t be in any sort of relationship. I then reminded him that I was not looking for a relationship and that he was the one who initiated the original conversation. He’s out of town for the next two weeks and we left it that we would see each other when he gets back. How can I salvage the hooking up part of the relationship without seeming like I want a relationship (because I don’t)? And why would he contradict himself like that?

-Confused College Girl

Dear Confused College Girl,

I’m almost as confused as you. He begs for things to get more serious and then seemingly bows out? Douchey. Not going to sugar coat it.

Guys can be total tools sometimes. Alright, a lot of times. This is a case where he’s saying one thing and doing another. Or as we like to call it, being an immature and irresponsible human being. Why is he being an immature and irresponsible human being who deserves a Sarah Walker asskicking?

There are some guys who say they want more but don’t actually have a grasp of what “more” means. They think it’s a label and an exclusive contract on you whenever they want. It’s almost more about convenience and assurance than an actual emotional commitment, or a trial period for an emotional commitment. Then there’s the school of thought that a relationship consists of rules and obligations that suddenly squeeze out all the spontaneity and dulls your sex life dramatically (which happens if you think it’ll happen, otherwise known as The Secret). And then there are those who just think “more” means “marriage”. This guy definitely isn’t coming off like a member of the latter category.

He could be scared or he could just not have a clue. My vote’s that he’s clueless. Treat him as such. He has no idea what he actually asked for involves the two of you coming together and making an effort, changes the circumstances of your relationship, and implies certain commitments you determine to make to one another. He thinks a week is enough and then he’ll be on his schedule until you fit back into his. Or he’s just NOT THINKING. Either way, when you see him next you’ve got to set the record straight about what you want.

There’s no going back to the way it was. It’s going to be something new from here on out, one way or the other. You’ve now seen and experienced this side of him. Don’t ignore it and don’t dismiss it. Keep this in mind from now on whenever you deal with him. Because if you want to just hook up, then you make it clear that that’s all there’s going to be.

Just don’t expect his answers to make sense and you’ll give yourself less grief.

“Puny god,”

The Incredible Dude

[Got a Dude itch you just can’t scratch? Sick of trying to come up with a not-totally-crazy-girl way to bring it up to your guy friends and get their take on things? Totally over over-analyzing the cryptic messages he leave on your Facebook Wall? We got your back, girlfriend. Send your question over to askthedude [at] collegecandy [dot] com. The Dude won’t sugarcoat it, beat around the bush, or any other weird cliche that means lie to you. Like a nice, juicy hot dog, he’ll be 100% real beef, 100% of the time. So bring. it. on.]

Ladies, let’s not front: at times, we don’t have the best judgment when it comes to television and film. How many of us enjoy fist pumping to the clashing techno tunes found on “Jersey Shore?” Or Tweeting about the drama in “Love and Hip Hop?” We’re all guilty by association. Luckily, College Candy is always here to help. There are several classic movies out there that you can watch to get your swagger back. And no, Save the Last Dance does NOT count.

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This photo is making waves today and has everyone wondering whether or not Dr. Oz has a boner. Here’s my question: Which photo editor at Good Houskeeping signed off on this photo? And do they still have a job? The editorial team at Good Houskeeping is probably taking a beating over this one.

What do you think girls? Is this an unfortunate illusion, or does Dr. Oz have a hard-on? Tell us below!

I am not a fan of Glee. By association, I can’t stand Lea Michele (especially after she took a Beyonce song and drained the meaning, angst, and soul out of it, but I digress). However, she is undoubtedly a high-profile starlet, and she has great style– simple, sophisticated and unabashedly girly.

dress – Nordstrom, $48.00//sandals – Endless, $38.49//ring – ASOS, $20.87

I gravitated towards this ensemble, because I recently tried on a dress similar to the one Lea wore, but ultimately didn’t buy it, because I wasn’t sure how to accessorize it without looking tacky or utterly dull. Turns out, I was totally overthinking it. A little white dress doesn’t need a lot of decoration, especially if it flatters your silhouette. Metallic shoes are my summer go-to, and these strappy sandals are fierce. To add a little more flair, Lea went with a statement ring (here’s a closeup), which is ostentatious without being too gaudy. These three pieces combine to make an effortless aesthetic and an adorable summer ensemble.

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PDA or public displays of affection, when humans do it excessively and in inappropriate places (subway, class, movie theaters, church, etc.), we all gag and want to shoot said humans. We’re all, “Get a room!” as we take our bitter self to the nearest candy store. Public displays of affection can tick a lot of people off, but what about if it’s a furry little animal lovin’ on another furry little animal? I think we’d all be okay admitting that there is only one thing more precious than a cute animal, and that is two cute animals.

It’s time for your daily dose of cuteness, and it comes in the form of animals loving on each other! They have friends and lovers and homies just like we do! Be prepared to melt into a puddle of cuteness (especially when you see the red pandas!).

Katie is finishing up her undergrad at North Central College in Naperville, Illinois. She enjoys wasting hours on Facebook and tweeting things no one cares about. When asked the question, “Do you do marathons?” She promptly responds, “Of course! Which show?” Follow her @KatieGarrity! Or read her personal blog where she talks about Ryan Gosling and hummus a lot here! 

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We know that college students are always looking for ways to save money. Especially at this time of year, when the semester is coming to a close and your bank account is sinking closer and closer to $0! Keep reading to find out how YOU can win a $200 PRIZE PACK with everything you need to get through spring in style from our friends at ReadyU. ReadyU is a great resource for college students. Looking for advice on college life outside the classroom, like how to deal with a bad roommate, or how to clean your room for your parents’ surprise visit? ReadyU has got you covered! And now you have the chance to have your favorite “How Not-To” moment immortalized in film.

Visit the ReadyU Facebook page now to enter your most memorable “funny fail” – like the time you tripped on the way to class and landed smack on you face in front of your crush, or the time you fell asleep in class, only to wake up and realize class let our 15 minutes ago.
Summer is so close that we can almost taste it, which means a much-needed break from school, and most likely, a summer job or internship. Check out ReadyU’s awesome tips for landing that coveted internship now before springtime is over.

All college students know that summer jobs can be awesome, but they can also be less than glamorous. While we’re looking forward to making a little extra money during the break, we can’t help but dream about the amazing summer jobs we wish we had. Here are our top 10 dream summer jobs.

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Now that you know all about our dream summer jobs, we want to hear yours! Our friends at ReadyU are giving away an awesome prize pack of spring essentials worth $200. So what do you have to do to get all the spring season products you could possibly ever need? Just leave a comment telling us what YOUR dream summer job would be. Don’t be afraid to get creative!

Will we see Kanye and Kim’s relationship on the next season of ‘Keeping Up With The Kardashians?’ According to the media, they do almost everything together, so it’s hard to imagine him not making an appearance on the show. We just hope she learned her lesson from the Kris Humphries debacle! TMZ spoke to some insiders to find out what all from their relationship will be aired on the show. You know, on the rare occasions the tabloids miss something. Read the full story here.

In other news:

Reese Witherspoon flaunts growing baby bump in cute polka dot dress!

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Maria Menounos eliminated from Dancing With The Stars

‘Snow White And The Huntsman’ unscripted interview!

Blind Gossip hints that Liam Hemsworth may want out of his relationship with Miley!

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We all have our everyday beauty routine, but sometimes it’s fun to try out a new hairstyle or paint your nails a fun pattern! If you’re anything like me and always looking for new beauty inspiration, look no further than The Beauty Department.

The Beauty Department is of my favorite go-to resources on the web since I discovered the site a few months ago. Brought to you by the always-chic Lauren Conrad and her hairstylist and makeup artists, Kristin Ess and Amy Nadine, The Beauty Department houses all sorts of wonderful hair, makeup and nail how-tos and helpful tips, accompanied by gorgeous pictures!

Check out this this fab ombré manicure or this colorful, temporary hair color idea or these articles on how to seal your mascara and clear-skin tips. In addition to the great tutorials and tips, The Beauty Department also has great articles on current and upcoming beauty trends (like hair chalking), and even hosts awesome giveaways every once in a while!

A lot of you may have even seen The Beauty Department‘s hair and/or makeup tutorials on Pinterest and didn’t realize that they came from this awesome little site. Every day there is something new to learn – the site provides you with your “daily dose of pretty”!