Advice From a Dude

Jun 24, 2013

Can We Be More Than Slambuddies? [Ask A Dude]

I got to a point when I wanted sex, but not with someone I wasn't dating...and he didn't want to date me. Finally I caved. So now we're having sex but he's not cuddling anymore. Sometimes I feel like we really are friends and sometimes I just feel like a slambuddy.

Jan 23, 2013

What’s a Girl To Do About The Guy Who Keeps Coming Back? [Ask A Dude]

I've been FWB'ing with someone for a while. Over the course of the years we've known each other, we'll occasionally have a huge blow-out argument, after which we go our separate ways. This will last a few months, and then slowly and certainly this guy comes back.

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Dec 12, 2012

How Do I Get Him a Gift Without Making Him Think I’m Asking to Get Serious? [Ask A Dude]

With the holiday season upon us, I wanted to know if it would be appropriate to get him a gift. I wasn't planning on setting up a formal "gift exchange" dinner or anything, but every now and again I'm in a store and see something that makes me think, "Ahh, he would love this!"

Nov 28, 2012

Do Guys Still Care About Leg Hair? [Ask A Dude]

The weather is getting a bit colder, so I’m getting a bit lazier and . . . during the winter months I tend to skimp on shaving my old gams. Would the guy I’m dating be freaked out by my beastly legs or is it NBD?

Nov 21, 2012

How Do I Tell Him I’m Bored In Bed? [Ask A Dude]

My boyfriend is super sweet and we’ve been together for over a year now and I feel really bad even thinking this, but he has gotten kind of boring in bed. I wonder if he is less attracted to me or if I’m just bored of his usual moves.

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Nov 14, 2012

Is He Saying I’m Ugly? [Ask A Dude]

The guy that I am dating, like actually dating (none of that ‘it’s complicated’ business) does this really annoying thing. I think it’s mean, hurtful and degrading. He points out other girls’ flaws all the time. He’ll say something about a girl’s flat chest or crooked teeth. What’s worse is that the stuff he points out are often things that I am self-conscious about. I feel like he is making fun of me when he makes fun of them. Does he think that I’m ugly?

What If His Friends Hate Me? [Ask A Dude]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and every time we go out with his friends I can tell they don’t like me. These dudes are giving me some serious side-eye and are super passive aggressive.

Nov 7, 2012

Why Do Guys Take So Long To Text Back? [Ask A Dude]

I'm not looking for volumes of prose sent via SMS, but a semi-prompt answer to my "Wanna catch a movie Friday?" invitation would be swell.

Oct 17, 2012

Will He Cheat On Me If He’s Done It Before? [Ask A Dude]

There’s a guy (always is, right?), and he’s really cool and all, and we get along really great together. We’ve hung out a bunch of times, but here’s the thing: he’s got a reputation for cheating. I mean, I know from friends that he’s cheated on at least 2 girls before.

Sep 26, 2012

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Sep 19, 2012

Does Online Dating Make The First Date Feel More Important? [Ask A Dude]

I know a bunch of other girls who’ve ended up in relationships with guys online, but I think the problem for me is there seems to be a lot of pressure on the first date. It feels like you’re trying to imagine yourself in a relationship with him after spending all of 2 hours knowing him drinking at a bar. Why are people getting so relationship obsessed over one date? Are they or is this just something I keep feeling like I’m pressured to buy into?

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Sep 12, 2012

Did He Play Me Or Did I Play Myself? [Ask A Dude]

In the three years I've known him we've gotten fairly close and I've begun to fall for him. He seems to enjoy snuggling against me, tickling me, etc. Also he has the habit of being over-protective of me. I took this to mean that he was attracted to me, too.

Sep 5, 2012

Orientation Guys, What’s The Deal? [Ask A Dude]

So over orientation last week, I met this super cutey and since we’re both new to the school and the city and everything we kind of made it a point to hang out a lot.

Aug 29, 2012

Do I Choose The Sex or The Companion? [Ask A Dude]

So now here’s the problem: I’ve got these two guys that I’m kinda going back and forth with. One totally gets me, he’s all about keeping what we have casual and not asking for anything, and somehow we’ve ended up to the point where I’m totally falling for him.

Aug 22, 2012

Can I Date My Ex’s BFF? [Ask A Dude]

I crushed on his friend a little, but I was convinced that my Ex was the one for me. Now that we have broken up (he dumped me and was apparently flirting with other girls), I regret not choosing his friend.

Aug 15, 2012

Am I Too Young To Get Married? [Ask A Dude]

Everyone keeps asking me and him if we’re next, and I love him, but I don’t know if I want to get married!!! What do I say if he asks?

Aug 8, 2012

Will He Cheat On Me Again? [Ask A Dude]

My question is this: Can you ever trust a guy again after he’s cheated? Was it just a one time drunken mistake?

Jul 18, 2012

Do Guys Get Over Break Ups Faster? [Ask A Dude]

Girls seem to think that guys get over break ups at a faster rate and with more ease than women. Is this true?

Jun 27, 2012

Why Won’t He Let Me Meet The Family? [Ask A Dude]

See, my first question is - and I’m not saying it’s a fair one - is he an only child? Is he from Texas?

Jun 20, 2012

Is He Going To Dump Me For His Ex…Again? [Ask A Dude]

So I met this guy over spring break, had an amazing week getting to know each other and really connected. But, he had a girlfriend.

Jun 13, 2012

Is Lingerie Necessary? [Ask A Dude]

So what do guys really think about lingerie? I recently spent $80 on this super hot outfit and was super excited to wear it for my boyfriend.

Jun 9, 2012

He Said I love you…I Can’t Say It Back

This happens. Sh*t happens. And all we can do is ask the question, “What’s next?”

Jun 6, 2012

Why Does Sex Ruin The Friendship? [Ask A Dude]

So I recently hooked up with one of my best guy friends. I was ridiculously drunk and he was well on his level (leaning towards being sober, though, from what I heard).

Jun 2, 2012

Why NOT To Get Back With Your Ex

Man, where do you even start with this? I mean, he’s that guy who was there with you for a really crucial time in your life, you know?

May 30, 2012

How Do I Tell Him He Gave Me An STD!? [Ask a Dude]

I went to the health center and got my regular 6 month check up and I came up positive for…something.

May 23, 2012

We Hooked Up And Now He’s Backed Off! WTF? [Ask A Dude]

So I recently hooked up with one of my best guy friends. I was ridiculously drunk and he was well on his way.

May 16, 2012

Why’d He Ask To Get Serious And Then Disappear? [Ask A Dude]

Fast forward one week and I don't hear from him at all. I text him a few times and don't hear back. I asked him to talk and when he called me he got very defensive.

May 14, 2012

11 Signs He’s An A-hole! [Dude’s List]

The title pretty much says it all, doesn’t it? I mean, this isn’t exactly rocket science, this is common f*cking sense.

May 6, 2012

The Secret To Keeping A Great Relationship Going

I mean, seriously, what happens? Something must. Something changes. Everything started out so well--the great sex, talks that lasted until sunrise, spooning ‘til class at noon, clothes were optional, and fun was constant.

May 2, 2012

How Do I Introduce Him To My Dad? [Ask A Dude]

So I’ve got a BIG problem, and I don’t have any clue what to do. I've been dating this guy for almost 8 months, and we're crazy about each other. We’re basically that couple that’s so in love no one can stand to eat around us. Here’s the problem: I'm fairly certain my ultra conservative, Republican dad is going to hate him.

Apr 25, 2012

Ask A Dude: What’s The Best Way To Meet Guy Friends?

What is the best way to meet good guy friends? I'm not talking boyfriend prospects, just good friends. I recently transferred to a new university and have always been "one of the guys"...how do I get a good group without being asked out on dates?

Apr 22, 2012

Why “GIRLS” Is The WORST New Show On TV

The cat’s been out of the bag for several days now; "GIRLS" has arrived, and it’s probably the most disappointing debut of a show in recent memory.

Apr 18, 2012

Should You Have Sex On The First Date? [Ask A Dude]

What do guys really think of sex on the first date? Is it a deal breaker? I feel like if you have a genuine connection with someone, and the sex is awesome, shouldn't that make them want you more? Or does it completely take the fun out of the chase? I've had one long term relationship start out of sex on the first date. I've had other guys never call me again. What's the deal?

Apr 16, 2012

11 Signs He’s A Cheater! [Dude’s List]

All men are capable of cheating. Hell, all people are! Let’s not pretend that there aren’t temptations and that there aren’t opportunities. There are times when it’s just a slip and then there are other times when it’s a damn Charlie Chaplin sketch. The question is, how do you know if he’s cheating on you?

Apr 15, 2012

How To Turn Down A Date

There are infinite amount of ways to ask someone out because there are infinite amount of situations that it can come up in. And for as many ways that there are to ask, there are as many ways to reject. You could probably write it as an equation: X number of attempts = X number of rejections which can be rewritten as X attempts to procreate = X number of ways to get kicked in the nut sack.

Apr 11, 2012

Is Marriage A Deal Breaker? [Ask A Dude]

I've been dating this guy for a few months, and we really get along phenomenally. We have a lot in common, including our sense of humor, we love to go on adventures and the sex is fantastic. Marriage came up in conversation the other day, because one of his friends is unhappily married. During the conversation he revealed that he didn't believe in marriage and would never marry.

Apr 8, 2012

12 Places To Get It On Before You Graduate

You’ll take a lot of memories with you from the journey from duckling Freshman to swan Senior, but there will also be some regrets. Some of those regrets are going to haunt you for the rest of your life, or until you get a good paying job, which in this economy might mean the rest of your life. And of those regrets, potentially chief among them are not having sex in places you wish you would have.