So you’re dating someone who is super cute, nice, makes you laugh…and then wham! He sucks in the sack. …Or if you’re not quite there yet, he’s bad at kissing. So what’s a girl to do when she’s used to a certain…ahem, level of pleasure in both areas? Work with him, of course!

If there’s no investment in the guy and you’re simply hooking up with him but he’s bad at sex, it’s your call to pull a Jay-Z and say, “On to the next one,” or stick around. Trust me, there are plenty of guys with enough experience to satisfy your needs. But remember, choose wisely and know the dude’s sexual history. Good sex is great, but good sex plus an STD? Not so much. However, if you actually like the guy and he’s more than a 2 a.m. drunken roll-around in the sheets, stick around and see what you can do!

Let’s start with kissing. I’ve dated a terrible kisser before! I’m talkin’ lips protruding as if I was Marge and he was Homer Simpson. Yep, pretty bad. However, his personality was amazing! We had that witty text banter down, he made me laugh all the time and I thought he was the greatest guy I’d ever been with. But as our relationship continued, I knew that whole kissing thing had to be worked out. Rather than say anything to him (guys can be pretty sensitive about that stuff), I just started kissing him how I wanted it. Maybe he was used to kissing his ex-girlfriend that way, but over time he adapted to my way of kissing and things just went along from there.

If your guy is a slobber mouth, though, that’s a different story! I am pretty bold when I’m kissing a guy if there’s too much spit involved. I will literally take my hand and wipe the dudes mouth and then my own. Sometimes that’s all it takes! I guarantee he doesn’t like to be swimming in a spit-bath either, so do something like that from time to time and he’ll take the hint.

As for a guy that’s bad at sex, this may take a little more work. The one thing girls should know is that it’s always okay to tell him exactly what you want. In fact, guys dig that! Most guys want to please you as much as you want to please them, so get over being shy and get straight to whispering in his ear what you want next.

If it’s the mood that’s making sex awkward, try turning on some music! You can make the mood sexy and passionate with some Kings of Leon or have a silly sex sesh while cranking up You Make My Dreams Come True by Hall & Oates. (I guarantee you’ll both be laughing). The bottom line is that sex is better when you’re comfortable, so do whatever it takes to get you there.

If all else fails and you’ve got it bad for the guy, you can always talk to him about it, but be careful how you word it. Guys (especially typical college guys) have killer egos and might take your suggestion as an insult and run the other direction. But if your man truly respects and cares for you, he’ll want things to be the best they can and work with you to make either kissing or sex better.

Wanna see how he deals with sloppy kissers and less-than-ideal lays? Hop on over to COED Mag!

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You know what’s super awkward? Sex. All that nudity and rubbing and body parts all over the place. It’s a recipe for disaster. There are about a billion things that can go wrong, from cutting open your head on the corner of a dresser (been there) to dropping a wad of drool on your man’s face (done that). And if we took a moment to truly reflect on what it’s like to fart during the entire thing, well, I’m pretty sure we’d all just stop sexing all together.

I’m sure most people don’t put as much thought into the intricacies of sexy time as I do, but I am sure that plenty of sexually active adults have considered the multitude of things that could go wrong during the act. Does everyone have the same fears (babies and disease)? Do guys fears differ from a girl’s? Is a queef as big a deal to everyone else as it is to me (and do other people laugh uncontrollably when one happens)?

I asked my friend who is a boy to give me his thoughts.

But I have no idea what makes a woman bad in bed. Can a woman be bad in bed? Could I be bad in bed? I started to develop a complex after a male friend of mine told me he had faked orgasms…on multiple occassions! Guys fake orgasms? Could a guy have been faking with me?

OMG! WHAT IF I AM BAD?!

I turned to my male advisor for the answers. (Note: I did try and convince him that it was “my friend” who was worried, but we all know it was neurotic, self-conscious me.)