When I think of the word selfish, I see every single sixteen year-old human being in the world. All they care about is wasting gas money in their new little car, getting whatever they want whenever they want it and completely dropping everything and everyone for themselves. I know that sounds a little harsh – but weren’t we all like that at that age? I was. I spent all of my parent’s money on Arizona Green Tea at the gas station and spent every waking moment with my fluttery hearted little boyfriend just because he made me happier than anyone else at the time.

Selfish.

As I got older, my selfishness started to go away, for obvious reasons. Like – there were other people in the world. Compromising started to sound like something fun, sacrificing time and money started to become the norm. I started growing up. And with growing older came giving up some of the things I did for myself, to begin doing for others. I started making time for others – I went to group project meetings instead of watching TV show finales or roaming around Target. They were simple sacrifices, but they were prominent.

Growing up is all about losing that selfish factor. Especially in a new job environment, – I want to make sure everything I’m doing is coherent with everyone else’s time and tasks. Even with friendships, I want to always keep others in mind. I want to make others happy and let them trust me for things. I am keenly aware of what others are thinking, based upon my adult actions. Read More »

There’s a great many things to do and places to see in this world of ours.  As humans, our lives are pretty short (and if you party like I do, it’s probably going to be even shorter).  So we have to prioritize!  We have brains for a reason and that reason is…reasoning (well, at least some of us use them for that purpose: see comment about partying above).  Let me be your voice of reason as I show you all the things you should (or shouldn’t be….) be doing right here, right now.

One of the primary lessons of preschool and Kindergarten education is about sharing with others.  Share your milk and cookies, share your toys, share your nap mat, etc.  Growing up with a younger sister, I had these lessons pounded into my head both at school and at home.  That Easy-Bake-Oven cake that I worked so hard on (c’mon, I was six)?  I had to share it with my sister, who did nothing but play with MY Barbies while I slaved over my one-bulb oven.

Well, maybe I’m done with sharing and sacrificing my efforts for others.  Maybe it’s time to be more selfish.  After Googling around for some articles to back up my selfish ambitions, I found that it’s a good thing to be selfish (sometimes).  I think everyone should try it!  Here are the reasons why you should be more selfish:

Less Stress – As college women, we have a million things going on: if we’re not writing three papers for tomorrow, we’re helping our friend move out of their dorm and into their new summer apartment.  What would happen if we (selfishly) decided not to do some of those things? Of course, you do need to do all your schoolwork and whatnot, but maybe you don’t have to plan your friend’s wedding for her.  You also don’t have to go shopping with your sister or watch your boyfriend play community soccer when you could be relaxing in the bath. Read More »