Congratulations!  You made it through to day 5 of the College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice! The other experts and I had so much fun and hope that you were able to take away and apply some of things you have learned.

The experts have shared a lot with you this week: the importance of smiling, the power of eye contact, the negative affects of texting in public, and the messages your body is sending. And now it’s time to put it all together.

Today’s Challenge:  Get approached and set yourself up for success, with Kira Sabin, The Dating Makeover Coach and creator of TheCollegeCrush.com Read More »

We’re onto day 4 of our College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice and we’re all well on our way to being more approachable!

Just joining us? Welcome! This week the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.) First they challenged you to put on a happy face. Then, it was all about eye contact. Yesterday, they asked you to put away your cell phones.

Today’s Challenge:  Be aware of your body language, with Brittany Chaffee a CollegeCandy writer and the (faboosh) lady behind The College Revolution on The College Crush. Let’s get to it.

As much as I enjoy blabbing my mouth off from time to time, I’ve recently realized (with the help of Ms. Kira Sabin) that I need to pay attention to one of the most important aspects of dating there is: body language.  It’s so easy to close people off with your body.  And the kicker? You don’t even notice you’re doing it! Read More »

It’s day three of our College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice. That means we’re halfway to being more approachable!

For those of you just joining us, this week the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.) First they challenged you to put on a happy face. Yesterday, it was all about eye contact.

Today’s Challenge: Ban PDT (Public Displays of Technology) with Jewels from @techromanceblog and Techromance Tuesday on The College Crush.

Now, let’s be honest for a second. In this day and age, everyone is hyper-connected so it’s become totally normal and expected to be texting and calling and Facebooking no matter where we are and who we’re with. But how are you supposed to apply the basics (smile + eye contact) when you’re constantly looking at your stinkin’ phone?! Read More »

Welcome to day 2 of the College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice: 5 Days to Be More Approachable.

For those of you just joining us, this week the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.) Yesterday, your challenge was to put on a happy face.

Today’s Challenge:  It is all in the eyes!  It is, and Nando (from Nandoism and our Gay BFF on The College Crush) is gonna tell you why.

Now that we’ve got our smiles down it’s time to move on to a big next step: eye contact.  Eye contact with a smile is the easiest way for someone to notice you and know that it is good to make the approach. Remember, if guys think they are going to be shut down, they just won’t go there.  It also exudes mucho confidence.   Read More »

Welcome to the College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice: 5 Days to Be More Approachable. We are beyond excited that you are joining us!

Over the next five days the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.)

Today’s Challenge: Show off your pearly whites, with Kira Sabin – The Dating Makeover Coach.

Everyone assumes the most attractive people get approached, but really it is the most confident and happy. Nothing is more powerful or attractive than a smile. Passersby (and that hottie in your Stats lecture) will wonder why you are so happy and want to find out.   Who doesn’t want to hang out with the people who are having the most fun? Read More »

[The following post was written by dating coach, Kira Sabin, a keg of dating and relationship wisdom. She's been helping people find love for years so we thought we'd tap this keg and see what sort of brilliant advice she has for the CollegeCandy readers. Drink up!]

Ever have that friend that gets approached all the time?  Sure, she may be pretty, smart or flirty but for some reason guys flock to her like white on rice.  It may you leave you scratching your head and muttering under your breath “what is SO great about her?” You probably have friends that are funnier, smarter and prettier, yet she gets the guys.

Well, I know her secret and I’m going to share it with you.

Ask the average person how we communicate and they will most likely answer, “Duh, with words….or text messages.”  Yet, did you know for every message that we deliver verbally we actually give off 12 non-verbal signals?  In fact, researchers around the world agree that body language accounts for at least 65% of communication.  Some say up to 90%.  Ever hear the saying “actions speak louder than words?”  Truer words have never been spoken. Read More »

Get a (bath)room, Amy Winehouse!

Lindsay’s jail time brings in the big bucks.

Things that make you go “awwwwwwww.”

When words fail you, use your body.

Oh no she didn’t!!

How to rock Fall’s bold brow trend.

If Jessica Alba’s bodacious blow-out didn’t catch my eye this month on the September cover of Cosmo, the giant ‘Untamed Va-jay-jays’ headline sure did.  What the hell is an untamed vajay? Seriously, this isn’t the Discovery Channel for body parts, Cosmo. Naturally (pun intended) I was gnawing at the bit to get inside the mag and get reading (because who doesn’t like headlines that read ‘Seduce Him! The Sexy Move That Works From 20 Feet Away’ and ‘Guy Sex Confessions.’ Yep, where’s my notepad?).

Beyond the cover, I’ve come to the scientific conclusion Cosmo has a weird obsession with Kristen Stewart. Last month they featured an article showcasing how classy her relationship with R-Patz was and this month an entire page was dedicated to a timeline of KStew’s looks growing up from 2002-2010, where Cosmo noted she is “fashion forward and glamorous.” I’m so glad Cosmo has confirmed bed head and deep frowns as edgy and ‘fashion forward.’ But even better, on the next page Cosmo showcased ‘Styles That Go Both Ways’ - AKA hairstyles that work for both male and female.  The first victim? Our homegirl Kristen, sized up next to Ed Westwick with a VIP flow cut. Awww, cute.

As I continued to flip through; I passed the casual ‘Sexy vs. Skanky’ article which stated the (extremely obvious) sexy and skanky things in the world (i.e. cycling sleeveless as sexy and cycling naked as skanky). For a second, I did think cycling naked was dead sexy, so I’m glad I could get this formally clarified by the experts at Cosmo.  Friends who back-stab, taking his identity and wearing a tee shirt as a dress were other skanky actions Cosmo claim as ‘no-no’s.’  Aren’t you happy you know that now? Me too.  A paragraph analyzing his Halo addiction flew past my fingertips in ’101 Things About Men’ and an article called ‘How to Have Perfect Timing’ lost my attention when the first bit of advice was to wake up at 7 A.M. and have a quickie.  And where does this give me the good wishes to have fabulous timing?? Read More »

I’ve officially decided the best way to read Cosmo is out loud on Spring Break with your best friends. Maybe it was the rum in our (multiple) Miami Vices, but we couldn’t help but crack up at all the advice Cosmo had to offer in this month’s issue.

We must have laughed for days about playing Scrabble naked with your man to spice things up. Still trying to figure out what’s sexy about watching your naked (limp) man try to figure out a word he can create out of seven block letters…

We also cracked up when Cosmo told us to flash a real genuine smile that forms crinkles at the corners of your eyes and mouth in order to exude confidence. We each took turns attempting these cheesy smiles, and wound up looking more like chipmunks than sexpots. My advice: try this with your friends for a good laugh, but don’t attempt to do this at a bar. And isn’t faking a genuine smile the exact opposite of genuine?

And of course, there was the one article that made me lose more brain cells than all of the cocktails that I consumed on the beach did: 4 Signs He’s Hiding Something. Read More »

Cosmo‘s February issue had a lot of usefulless information, as per usual. Get excited! This month we learn how guys truly feel about nail decals (we know you’ve all been dying to know the answer to this.) Turns out 55% think they’re too over-the-top, while 45% say they’re fun and flirty. But I’m pretty sure 100% don’t really know what nail decals are, or even notice what their ladies are rocking on their fingers.

We also learn that what you’re envious of reveals what you really want in life. But didn’t we already learn this when Laguna Beach first came out and we all felt green with envy? I don’t think it took our “where-we-sit-at-lunch-defines-our-popularity-status” high school minds and an article from Cosmo to realize that we were envious because we wanted what they had. We wanted their million dollar mansions, designer name clothing, thriving social lives, and Ste-VEN in our beds. And we especially all wanted to be asked to our proms with a fish filled pool and a lit up sign. So thanks anyway, Cosmo.

But perhaps the most informative article this month is His Bedtime Body Language, in which we learn how his sleeping position tells us all we need to know about his personality.

Cosmo Says: Facedown: This guy likes to be in control.
Arielle Says: Or maybe he just likes to shove his face under the pillow so the afternoon sun doesn’t wake him from his slumber.

Cosmo Says: On His Back: His open posture shows that he’s secure and optimistic.
Arielle Says: Yeah… optimistic for a blow job! Or maybe he was watching an episode of Entourage and fell asleep halfway through. Or was reading his biology assignment and fell asleep with the book on his chest. Well, actually probably not the latter, if your man is anything like mine… Either way, the analysis of this sleeping position should really just be that he will need a nose strip; he’s going to be snoring all night. Read More »