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Dear Tuffy,

Okay so I have a dilemma and I have been offered a LOT of advice on it but none of it seems to be the right fit for me. Maybe you can offer some third party advice that is more direct. There is a boy I currently like. Problems:

1) He just got out of a long term relationship. Attempting to make a move now would just be pointless as he probably isn’t looking to jump into another relationship.
2) He lived in my dorm last year and we’re both back in the same dorm now. Dormcest: Yay or Nay?
3) We are good friends. – I fear I am in the friend zone.
4) I am lazy/shy. I want him to make the first move but I think if I wait to long he might find someone else.

Any advice you can offer would be great.

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"Oh, but which one do I choose!?"

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Dear Tuffy Luv,
I can’t stop to think about this guy, I hope you can help me and give me some advice. (Sorry for the long e-mail in advance.)

So I met Chuck in school last year, he lives across from my dorm. Since we have the same major and in the same year, we studied for exams together throughout the whole year. At first, I didn’t think I would ever be attracted to him since he is not the type of guy I usually fall for. But I don’t know why, ever since school ended I been thinking about him a lot. Also, during school, my friends keeps telling me that Chuck likes me, and I should give him a chance. And he did act a little weird around me when he was drunk one night and wrote me a little note with hearts. But the thing is I already dropped a lot of hints, and I am not sure if he’s just not that into me or he is just slow and shy.

Chuck lives in a different city, so when school ended, he move back home. Chuck’s friend Steve, however, lives on my street. Since we are the only two people from my school that live in my city, we’ve hung out a couple of times. I can feel that Steve likes me, but I only like him as a friend, and I am not sure if by going to movies with him I am leading him on. One of my friends who works with Chuck said that during one of their convo, Chuck told her that he knows I went to a movie with Steve. Part of me kind of wants him to know, because I want him to be jealous (that’s if he would), but the other part of me was really annoyed by this news, because I feel like he is the type of person who would back out if he knows his friend like me. I haven’t talked to Chuck at all ever since school ended; I sent him a message on FB, but he didn’t reply. Read More »

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And now for the question. But first:

Confidential to Tulsi: Forget him. There will be much hotter, cooler guys at college (in two weeks!). He’s trying to get in your pants because it’s a challenge (and, I’m sure, because you’re cute), but his time has passed.

Okay, for real this time:

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I am way past confused right now, and advice would be greatly appreciated. So here’s the situation: I met this guy last year, he was in my class. We talked, I ended up really liking him. He kept trying to hookup with me, but I kept telling myself, I’m not that kind of girl, I want a relationship. Eventually, I ended up hooking up with him over the summer. Told my two best friends because it was my first time. One of ended up drunkingly put me on speaker phone and lots of people found out. Me and the guy got in a huge fight, and stopped talking. We made up, and then we ended up hooking up.

School year comes around and he doesn’t ignore me completely, but I get like a wave or a smile, and things definitely aren’t what they used to be, but we were still hooking up. A few weeks ago he asked me to the movie “sometime” but then never asked me for a specific day. I hooked up with him a couple of days ago, and then I found out that he asked 3 girls to his cotillion. He’s a senior and I’m a junior, so I’m not going to the dance, and he hooked up with another girl. What makes me mad is that he didn’t even ask me. Do I have a right to be mad? I don’t know what to do with the situation. Like, we’re not in a relationship, so what do I do? Do I break things off with him? Do I just ask him, or do I yell? Right now I’m at the point where I really like him a lot. I know he’s going off to college next year, but it’s a community college and he’s commuting so he’ll still be in town. Thanks for reading this. Help me please.

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