A relationship often requires a bit of sacrifice and a lot of compromise. We all have to learn to accept and roll with aspects of our partner, or his/her life, that we don’t always understand or necessarily agree with. That’s called maturity, right? And building intimacy? I think…Now, those things aside there comes a point where you might just need to say “Hell no!” and walk off into the freedom of singledom again. Here are 11 things that no woman should ever put up with in a relationship… Read More »

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I love the advice you give and right now I’m in need of some if you don’t mind.

My boyfriend of 5 months broke up with me about 3 weeks ago after sitting me down and saying that he wasn’t ready to commit and that he felt as if he wanted to be alone. I didn’t agree with the breakup but I told him that I supported his decision. We decided to remain friends despite everything and I’m totally fine with that.

This past weekend, we took a trip with some mutual friends to Miami. It was supposed to be a little romantic getaway for couples when it was planned, but it wasn’t since we broke up beforehand.

Once we were in Miami, he operated as a single guy and damn near ignored me while we were there. Read More »

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Dear Tuffy Luv,
I’ve been reading your column all day long and I found myself agreeing with every bit of advice you have given and couldn’t pass up the opportunity to hear your insight on my own relationship. I’m a bit of a late bloomer when it comes to relationships, I didn’t have my first kiss or date till 19, after two very short relationships I found myself turning 21 in November and in a 7 month relationship with a guy I love very much.

I had always told myself I would wait until marriage to sleep with a guy but I found myself so very much in love and couldn’t see myself ever being with anyone else so I gave in about 4.5 months into the relationship. We had our ups and downs, at the beginning of the relationship he got kicked out of his dad’s house and had to live with some friends. Long story short, I stood by him through everything, motivated him to quit smoking marijuana, I dealt with a lot of his mood swings and anger when he was trying to quit smoking cigarettes, I gave him driving lessons and let him use my car to finally get his driver’s license, bought him groceries when he had nothing to eat when he got kicked out, gave him rides, had my brother fix up his old bike so my bf had something to ride to school so he could get his GED, and applied to a lot of jobs for him so he could upgrade from part time to full time when his laptop was stolen and he couldn’t do it himself, and I encouraged him to talk things through with his dad so he could live at home again. Needless to say, I have done my best to motivate him to be the best person he could be and he has shown a lot of gratitude for that. Read More »

Unless you live in an internet-less cave, or are one of those “I don’t have a Facebook” weirdos, then you have to already know that Facebook is going to change A LOT in the next few weeks. The new Facebook Timeline profile is a stalkers dream. The Timeline highlights events in your life (because we all want to re-live that bad break-up), and Facebook is teaming up with other websites, like Hulu, so you can watch shows with your friends over Facebook. There wont be any need to get together for Girl’s Night and watch Glee, you can just sit at your own apartment and never have to be social again.

If this sounds good, there are ways for you to get the Timeline early. Are you a Facebook developer? Me neither, but you can still pretend to be one to get the new profile. If that sounds too tech-y for you. You can also go here and sign up for a beta notification. This option is way easier, but you won’t get the Timeline immediately. I hope after Timeline is released, Facebook will be done changing for a while. I need time to use the Timeline to see the really awkward high school pictures of all the people I’m jealous of.

Getting dumped sucks. The only thing worse is getting dumped with some vague, cliché breakup line. You know the kind – they’re sugar coated, indirect, and straight from a Friends rerun. We can thank TV and movies for offering a plethora of lame excuses to the male population to recycle over and over again instead of offering us the real reason why they are ending our perfect romance.

Sound familiar? Luckily, these lines can be decoded, so grab that pint of Phish Food and read on for some clarity.

You’re Too Good For Me

Translation: I’m Too Good For You
He thinks he deserves someone better and is attempting to slip out of the relationship without having to do too much damage control. Whether or not he really means it, you probably are too good for him. Read More »

Every girl deals with heartbreak differently. Some prefer mourning the relationship by staying in and watching The Notebook and others prefer going all out and celebrating their newly single status with shots of tequila and a Rihanna dance party. Though there’s no one right path to overcoming the first pangs of heartbreak and its inevitable aftershock, but I can tell you what I’ve done in the past to get past heartbreak and its annoying friend, pain.

Lesson 37: Tricks of the trade when it comes to breakup heartbreak.

Closure can be treacherous territory. My go-to advice for my girlfriends and for myself is to create your own closure. Too many times I watch my friends go into post-breakup coffees and lunches with guys, using the veil of closure as a chance to talk things out and get back together. Closure is one of those great concepts in theory but not so much in practice because it’s so subjective. What seems like closure to one person could become a quest for more answers for another person. You have to ask yourself if you really want to know the reasons somebody didn’t want to be with you and if so, you need to be prepared for the feelings that could come with that. Read More »

The Black Eyed Peas recently announced they are going to take a break from each other. They claim they aren’t ending for good but rather taking some time apart for themselves—that’s a break up story I think we’ve heard once or twice. Will.i.am is scheduled to drop a solo album and Fergie is ready to spend more time with her sexy hubby. They did go on hiatus once before, so we’ll see if they manage to rekindle the spark later on. Personally, I’m not ready to say adios to the band that brought me “Fill up my cup
, Mazal tov!” However, there are some artists whose relationship I’d like to see fizzled instead. The world doesn’t need anymore bad music, but bands- please remember it’s not you, it’s all me.  No hard feelings? Read More »

Question?! Answer: Ask Tuffy Luv.

Dear Tuffy Luv,

First off, let me give you a little background information by saying that I’m actually a senior in high school, and I read College Candy all the time to get a true impression of what I’m up against next year.  Your advice is always practical and true, and I realized I HAD to write to you in hopes that you can help my situation.

About a week ago, I went to this camp at the college I’m going to attend.  We stayed there for a week, in the best and newest dorms on campus, and got to go to class and everything.  Basically, I got a true taste of what college will be like, only a little less crowded since it’s the summer.  It was at camp that I met this amazing guy, let’s call him T.  I first saw him in the cafeteria for breakfast that morning, and I couldn’t help but notice how good looking he was.  Later on that day in class, we sat together; we didn’t learn a thing in that 2 hours because we were constantly talking to each other and laughing.  He told me later on that night in the dorm lounge (everyone was there watching the basketball game) that he had feelings for me and he wanted to get to know me better. Read More »

The last Dude’s List came at a break up from POV of the boyee! We listed 11 reasons why he’d call it quits and hit the bricks. THIS TIME I’m coming head on for the adam’s apples. I run down 13, that’s right, 13, reasons that you ladies tell the boys to hit the bricks and get to steppin’. I should note that this was done after extensive and exhaustive polling by means of alcohol and righteous anger. Let’s let ‘em have it.

1.    “I’ve got too many things on my plate right now”

Sometimes, you just don’t need 1 more thing to deal with. Who hasn’t been there? You’ve got career or family or school or all three plus an addiction to True Blood to serve. There are only so many hours in the day and you’ve got to put your energies to what’s most important. Sometimes on the list of priorities, a boy (especially one that’s driving you up walls) isn’t near the top. Respect.

2.    “You’re still living with your parents and you’re 30”

Hey, in this economy, living back home with the family is a fiscally responsible decision. But that’s not what we’re talking about here. We’re talking about the guy who’s got no direction BUT home. When it comes to ambition, a lot of guys fail. Just, fail. They’re unmotivated and uninterested in being their own person. Who the hell needs that much extra dead weight dragging you down?

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Last week, my male friend over at COED Magazine shared his thoughts on how we ladies handle life after a break up. And let me just say, I haven’t LOLed that hard since the first time I watched this. (OMG. Just watched it again. HILARIOUS.)

It’s just so amusing to think about how little guys know about us (Note: I’m sure it was just as ROTFL-worthy for Paul when he read my thoughts on guys after a break-up); how they think we just bounce right back, better than ever, immediately following “the talk.” I mean, that’s not a bad thing. Their assumptions are way less disturbing (and pathetic) than the reality for most of us.

A reality which I’m about to lay out, in all it’s honest glory.

So let’s break down some walls and let it all hang out:

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